What Others Think Of Me || @smariam || Weekend Experience community

As a human being, you can’t expect everyone to think the same of you. People’s perceptions usually result from their interactions with you or a particular incident they’ve seen or heard.
All throughout basic school till now, I can say people’s perception of me has been the same. Maybe a few changes but overall, it’s still the same thing.

Shy/ reserved

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Seeing me for the first time and from a distance, this would probably be your first conclusion. It’s not necessarily a lie but it can’t be the truth either. I think I’m just reserved, I don’t like to be open to everyone around me. Reason being that there has to be something about you I like or something that motivates me to be comfortable around you. Else, I’m just going to keep it formal and polite. Energy is contagious and I have to be extremely careful with the kind of energy I’m getting from you. Lately I’m learning to be able to interact with people I just met like I’ve known them for a while but even with that, you would still feel I’m not as outgoing as you would want. I like to keep my business to myself and the people that matter. Everyone else should think I’m reserved 😂. I thought I was shy till some people came into my life and I realized I can actually be shameless 😂😂.
Another thing that comes with this is people thinking I’m rude. Most people that have become close to me have said this as their first impression of me. I don’t smile and I don’t talk unless I’m spoken to, that’s what they said.
In my head, I’m always smiling, my face just fails to show it😂😂

Highly Religious

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Again, there’s some truth in this but not entirely. But people conclude on this because of my choice of clothing and the way I’m selective of the type of activities to engage in.
In high school, there were people that wouldn’t say some things in-front of me because they thought it would be disrespectful 😂. Others would come to ask me my opinion on certain religious matters or to give them clearer explanation on some rulings. Although it was a good thing, it was uncomfortable for me because they portray a certain image of you and expect you to uphold it.
I’m just a regular person trying to figure out how this life thing goes and making so many mistakes and sins on a daily.

Athlete/stud

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This particular one is entirely false but I understand why they think that way. Until recently, my walking and choice of clothes sometimes would make you think I’m into sports and stuff like that. People have asked me on several occasions if I play football or a similar sport. It’s funny because I can’t even run to save my life😂.
Others think I’m into girls cause why else will you dress like a boy and act like one?
Personally I’m not so into girls clothing. I like baggy clothes cause it’s more comfortable. I’m now learning to wear more feminine stuff and be comfortable . I think it’s a phase that has passed but not entirely, I would always choose baggy clothes over anything any day.

This is my first post here on this page. You can check out my introductory post to know more about me My introductory post



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Aha. 😅 I've been waiting for you to drop yours too.
I can totally relate with some of these things.

The way people see you will be based on the amount of data they have on you.
It's just not cool that most folks like to jump to conclusions without actually trying to know or understand the person.

Just like what you said at the beginning of this post, everyone can't think of you the same way. All you can do is to keep working on yourself.

And judging from that last picture, I too would've thought you were an athlete or something. 😅
So, you don't play sports at all? Why?

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Sports has never even crossed my mind😂. I can’t even think of any that I like. Tennis looks interesting to watch but that’s all😂

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Oh really? You should try it one of these days. Just for fun.

I don't play sports anymore, but I still enjoy watching once in a while.

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What sport were you into?
Football?

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Yea, and Table Tennis too. Was pretty good back then but I was never really invested in them.
Now, I don't even think I can last 20 minutes on a football pitch. 😂

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Oh okay
Maybe you will get back to them later in life when you are more settled

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I can totally relate to that rude part. People usually think that of reserved people and I've lost count of the times people have told me that. One even said that I walk around like a puffed chicken 😂😂what that means I have no idea.

As for being religious and a Tom boy, just don't change to please anybody. Live your life on your own terms

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Puffed chicken😂😂😂😂😂. The way I see it is like how heavy muscular men walk. So they are just saying you are rude/arrogant .

No matter what you do, people still choose to look at the negatives 😏.

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😂😂 And I'm not even muscular o. Thin and tiny me looking like puffed chicken..

Yeah true, that's cos people are quick to judge, but slow to appreciate

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Oh well, there’s nothing we can do about it than to just ignore

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(Edited)

“I can't even run to save my life”
Hello my fellow club member 😂😂

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People’s perceptions usually result from their interactions with you or a particular incident they’ve seen or heard.

You said it all with these words.


Anyway, I must say that you did actually strike me as shy and/or reserve at first glance from your picture. It's kinda adorable. Regardless, I understand where you're coming from and frankly, I can relate to that.

Personally, I'm the type of person who is shy and quiet if not comfortable around a person or group of people, but a motor mouth and somewhat life of the party when comfortable!

Others think I’m into girls cause why else will you dress like a boy and act like one?

Oh, so you're not gay? 😲
LoL, I actually have a friend who's super girly in the inside but dresses like a tomboy on the outside. All good, you do you!

I like your style.

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Thank you so much🥰

Well I guess the first picture made it obvious. Like I’m trying to hide😂.

I’m trying to maintain a balance between girly clothes and tomboy 😂😂

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My pleasure!

Yeah, the first pic kinda did XD

Just do you, whatever makes you happy and comfortable.

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I wouldn’t lie, I loved reading this write up. It had everything in it, joy,drama,disappointments and more. I think in all you’re an introvert and that’s fine. Everyone has his or her own unique character. It just doesn’t seem right for you to want me to be an extrovert at first sight. Hey all I will say it forget all they say and be you! Remember at the end of the day you’ll be the one to save yourself. 🤞🏻

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Well said. Will keep it in mind

But I know you definitely had your own ideas about me too😂😂

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Oh yeah I had a few but I won’t share. Let me let it stay in my head 😅. But I understand

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Lol I can understand why people will have any of these impressions of you.

I thought I was shy till some people came into my life and I realized I can actually be shameless.

To the people we go all out for🥂😂

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Of all the things, you just had to comment on this particular one😂😂😂😂

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I’ve also had so many people tell me I’m rude, like they are scared to talk to me. They feel I will insult them or something but I’m harmless. Personally, I don’t talk to people I don’t know unless I’m comfortable around you.

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