Don't Make It A Pattern To Say Sorry
As Humans, we make mistakes from time to time when dealing with one another, sometimes knowingly but most times unknowingly........
In those difficult situations, we don't have the power to travel back in time and undo whatever wrong we have done but what we do have the power to do is to correct the mistake we've made by saying Sorry.
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Sorry is defined as feeling sadness, sympathy, or disappointment, especially because something unpleasant has happened or been done here
Most times instead of just apologising, we try to argue our way out and guess what?
We end up complicating and amplifying small issues into bigger ones.
Sorry when said properly could prevent so many damages in families, relationships and world at large.
We should be quick to say that we are sorry especially when we have wronged someone.
The greatest advocator of peace in the world is Sorry.
Could you imagine how good it would be if countries and individuals would admit to their wrongs and say "we are sorry" or "I am sorry"?
I am among the class of people that say sorry easily.
This helps me save a lot of arguments and helps me in maintaining a lot of relationships.
We should learn how to say sorry even when we are wronged.
Yes! It is very hard as many would ask you, what should I apologize for?
But in reality, it saves us a lot of troubles and helps keep everything in order.
Reading @nkemakonam89 's post here, we would see how apologising helped maintain the peace in her family even though she was wronged.
Regardless of always expecting that we gain forgiveness whenever we say that we are sorry, we should look out to make sure that our "I am sorry" never loses its worth.
What do I mean here?
I meant we should try as much as possible to learn from our mistakes instead of making it our pattern to say sorry.
Growing up in a typical African home, I will always hear my mum shout "Sorry to yourself too" when I did something that I knew was wrong just because I will say sorry when she complains.
This goes at length to tell us that my sorry lost value as at that moment because my mum who was meant to forgive me by hearing my apology further got annoyed since she knew I would have easily done the right thing but opted to do otherwise.
We shouldn't offend someone again and again and again simply because we will say sorry to the person we offend as this will make the apology lose value.
When we offend someone rather, we should always strive to avoid offending that person again for a while at least..... This will make the person value our apology because it doesn't come always.
Just the way we drink water everyday and get too familiar with it that we forget to remember it's crucial value because it is always available to us, in such way, is our I'm sorry irrelevant when we always say it because we keep offending someone.
When we say "we are sorry", we should make sure that our emotions especially facial expression is in line with the sorry we say.
Sorry is an apology for a wrong we did and for someone apologising, we should be able to express that we are indeed sorry.
Some will be saying sorry with smiles written all over their faces, this is very wrong and we should stop it if we do it as this is just an act of mockery and not apology.
It is true that my clan, the XY chromosome bearers 😅, have been singled out for our "egocentric attitude" but I want to use this opportunity to apologize on their behalf and promise you all that we are gradually getting better as the generation goes by.
A difficult situation I found myself in:
I live In the hostel in my school and as a result we share most of the infrastructures, this includes the hanging zone.
On a good Saturday morning, I finished washing my clothes and was about to hang them when I noticed there was a milk-coloured polo that was in one of the spaces I wanted to use.
Bearing in mind that my blue-jean trouser could stain the Polo, I went elsewhere and hanged it.
Few hours later, I was very surprised when my friend came to me with his polo and my trouser complaining that I just destroyed his Polo...... I was dumbfounded because that was the exact reason why I didn't hang it there.
Instead of arguing, I told him that I was very sorry about that and opted to send the Polo to the laundry services for expert management.
Hearing my apology, he melted and the whole rage calmed down immediately.
He said I shouldn't worry about it again.
Despite the fact that I was oblivious of whatever happened, I apologized and saved my day.
Later that night was when another guy was just randomly asking me if I saw my trouser because he transferred it from where I hanged it to another place (the place that it stained another person's Polo) since he wanted to use the big space to hang his mattress.
It was only then that I understood how it got to there but then, I have already apologized and there was no need prolonging the issue just because of the word, ""Sorry"
Sorry is a word that we should hold dear to our lips and actions and never get too stubborn to let it out whenever the need arises.
We shouldn't expect forgiveness until we have apologized, that's the way things work.
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Sometimes the words "I am sorry" gets abused too much. Especially when it known that forgiveness is sure after those words are spoken and it loses value.
I don't know which is worse, not apologizing or over apologizing.
Don't know why it is funny but indeed that is another angle of the story.... Over apologising is very bad on its own i must say.
Well, we should just avoid the situations that requires sorry as much as possible so that for those moments when it is unavoidable, when we say it, the recipient will value it
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Apologizing when we do wrong should not be an issue for us.
Whoever wishes to live in relief and peace should learn to push their ego behind and say sorry. And mean it too.
Had to read this a second time.
Was too drawn in on how well you write.
Indeed, it isn't really meant to be issue but trust some humans, they love making and creating issues even when there is none.
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I love the way you didn't argue over anything but rather made use of the magic word "sorry".
Just see how it saved Ur day...glad the whole thing was revealed later.... saying sorry is something to behold
It cost us nothing
And as for Ur xy chromosome, Una no dey try 😅
We keep getting better everyday 😂.
But for real oh, if you meet a lady that is egocentric eeh, they are the worst set of people 🤧.
They are not right and they are using useless points to defend their wrongdoings too😩
Just that they are fewer than guys sha.
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Some people do not realize that they keep reducing their value when they keep saying I am sorry and even repeating such mistakes. They have taken others for granted that they feel if they apologize, such a person would let go, but truly one's integrity is reducing day by day until your sorry does not mean anything to the other fellow.
When we apologize, it should come from our heart that we are truly sorry and shouldn't happen again.
Indeed... Many are losing their "we are sorry" value and it's a bad one because when it's exhausted, how else do you get people to forgive you?
Apologies should come from our heart to show that we have actually reflected on ourselves and found out that what we did was wrong and then apologize.
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Here in Canada we are known for saying "sorry" to everyone and for anything. We say sorry to strangers, on the sidewalk, in stores even when it's nothing. People make fun of Canadians for this. However when an apology is needed we are stubborn and stick to our guns. I try to apologize and own up to my mistakes. Like you said, after that, there should be no fight. If the other person wants to continue with that, then I know they are not worth it. Sorry if my comment is too long winded.😊
Hahaha.... It's not long at all and there is no need for the apology 👍
I really loved it you told me that about the Canadians, I really didn't know before now although it is something which requires an improvement on
It is also very nice that you are playing your part by making sure you own up your mistakes.... That's actually the best.
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Sorry save alot of stress and argument it brings peace and reunion also sorry do calm angered soul especially when one said it properly ,you did the right thing by apologizing. Nice post
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Phew! That was a long read with a lot of wisdom shared... Shey you nor go cut small wisdom for me so 🥲
I like how you laid emphasis on saying sorry and meaning it that you are really sorry... That's the major problem we are having, many aren't really sorry when they say it.
Like that concluding part... We shouldn't expect forgiveness when we haven't apologized, one mistake a lot of persons do and I'm one of them sometimes 🙈
I'm actually the one that needs the oil from your head, if it's possible my teacher😢.
Indeed, I made the emphasis because it is not just enough to say we are sorry, we should mean them as well, that's the most important thing.
Well, we keep getting better everyday, so, once you start working on it, you'll surpass it in due time
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in depth thought about using the word sorry and how you applied it in your situation made it special..Totally great
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I can't begin the count the number of wars that would have been avoided if one person agreed to apologise....many
It's a good thing that you didn't argue about the polo because that would have caused a lot of prolonging and tantrums throwing. You handled the issues perfectly.
Yes... Thanks to sorry honestly..
That day I was even tired already for drama😂
It happens sometimes. You're not just ready for drama😅
At all at all my brother 😂😅
Saying sorry matters a lot. It helps build one's immune system
Hahaha... How abeg😂
Never heard they contribute to gene codings nor to B- nor T- lymphocytes 😂
In my next life, I will make sure I learn scientific words. I believe that should be more than enough.
Hahaha.... My bad😂
I've said sorry na
I agree with sometimes people say I am sorry too much! Thank you for sharing your thoughts
Sorry is a word that shouldn't just be said. It is magical and therefore, we should let the magic be present in it when we say it.
Yes my dear.
Our emotions should be in line with our apology 👍
You handled it maturely. Some would go back to the owner of the polo to show the real culprit and rant. But you have said sorry and the owner has said you should forget about removing the stain. You are a good fellow, wise and peaceable.well done.
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being able to apologise is a great humility which goes a long way to keeping situations smooth and running
Sure it is
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I love what your mom said "sorry to yourself too"
at first I giggled about this because I thought it was a typical mom thing to say out of frustratoin - but then I realized what she meant and I was touched by the profound meaning here
I'll keep that and remember that!!!
Your mom is a wise woman! Tell her that I really enjoyed that phrase!
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At the end of the day, actions speak louder than words... so yep...people need to learn from their mistakes and take action to avoid being offensive, unkind, or disrespectful to those around them. Hearing the same ol' i'm sorry line starts to wear thin when it is not accompanied by the matching actions !PIZZA !ALIVE
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Indeed, it will help a lot if people learn to be kind to their fellow humans around them rather than banking on saying,"I am sorry all the time"
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