Don't Make It A Pattern To Say Sorry

As Humans, we make mistakes from time to time when dealing with one another, sometimes knowingly but most times unknowingly........

In those difficult situations, we don't have the power to travel back in time and undo whatever wrong we have done but what we do have the power to do is to correct the mistake we've made by saying Sorry.

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Sorry is defined as feeling sadness, sympathy, or disappointment, especially because something unpleasant has happened or been done here

Most times instead of just apologising, we try to argue our way out and guess what?
We end up complicating and amplifying small issues into bigger ones.

Sorry when said properly could prevent so many damages in families, relationships and world at large.
We should be quick to say that we are sorry especially when we have wronged someone.

The greatest advocator of peace in the world is Sorry.

Could you imagine how good it would be if countries and individuals would admit to their wrongs and say "we are sorry" or "I am sorry"?

I am among the class of people that say sorry easily.
This helps me save a lot of arguments and helps me in maintaining a lot of relationships.

We should learn how to say sorry even when we are wronged.
Yes! It is very hard as many would ask you, what should I apologize for?

But in reality, it saves us a lot of troubles and helps keep everything in order.

Reading @nkemakonam89 's post here, we would see how apologising helped maintain the peace in her family even though she was wronged.

Regardless of always expecting that we gain forgiveness whenever we say that we are sorry, we should look out to make sure that our "I am sorry" never loses its worth.

What do I mean here?

I meant we should try as much as possible to learn from our mistakes instead of making it our pattern to say sorry.

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Growing up in a typical African home, I will always hear my mum shout "Sorry to yourself too" when I did something that I knew was wrong just because I will say sorry when she complains.
This goes at length to tell us that my sorry lost value as at that moment because my mum who was meant to forgive me by hearing my apology further got annoyed since she knew I would have easily done the right thing but opted to do otherwise.

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We shouldn't offend someone again and again and again simply because we will say sorry to the person we offend as this will make the apology lose value.

When we offend someone rather, we should always strive to avoid offending that person again for a while at least..... This will make the person value our apology because it doesn't come always.

Just the way we drink water everyday and get too familiar with it that we forget to remember it's crucial value because it is always available to us, in such way, is our I'm sorry irrelevant when we always say it because we keep offending someone.

When we say "we are sorry", we should make sure that our emotions especially facial expression is in line with the sorry we say.

Sorry is an apology for a wrong we did and for someone apologising, we should be able to express that we are indeed sorry.
Some will be saying sorry with smiles written all over their faces, this is very wrong and we should stop it if we do it as this is just an act of mockery and not apology.

It is true that my clan, the XY chromosome bearers 😅, have been singled out for our "egocentric attitude" but I want to use this opportunity to apologize on their behalf and promise you all that we are gradually getting better as the generation goes by.

A difficult situation I found myself in:

I live In the hostel in my school and as a result we share most of the infrastructures, this includes the hanging zone.

On a good Saturday morning, I finished washing my clothes and was about to hang them when I noticed there was a milk-coloured polo that was in one of the spaces I wanted to use.

Bearing in mind that my blue-jean trouser could stain the Polo, I went elsewhere and hanged it.

Few hours later, I was very surprised when my friend came to me with his polo and my trouser complaining that I just destroyed his Polo...... I was dumbfounded because that was the exact reason why I didn't hang it there.

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Instead of arguing, I told him that I was very sorry about that and opted to send the Polo to the laundry services for expert management.
Hearing my apology, he melted and the whole rage calmed down immediately.
He said I shouldn't worry about it again.

Despite the fact that I was oblivious of whatever happened, I apologized and saved my day.

Later that night was when another guy was just randomly asking me if I saw my trouser because he transferred it from where I hanged it to another place (the place that it stained another person's Polo) since he wanted to use the big space to hang his mattress.

It was only then that I understood how it got to there but then, I have already apologized and there was no need prolonging the issue just because of the word, ""Sorry"

Sorry is a word that we should hold dear to our lips and actions and never get too stubborn to let it out whenever the need arises.
We shouldn't expect forgiveness until we have apologized, that's the way things work.

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