Marriage Dilemma : Should I or Should I not?

Back in my primary school days, we were usually told that Marriage is defined as the Union of a man and a woman to become husband and wife.

I accepted this definition wholeheartedly then but growing into an adult witnessing various marriage scenarios, I believe that the definition given for marriage is not just deficient but doesn't tell the full story about marriage.

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Marriage indeed is a double-edged sword.
Marriage is good when you find the right person... Nah, don't get me wrong, there's nothing like the perfect 💯 person because we all aren't perfect but by right person, I meant....

someone who holds dear same values and principles as you hold...

someone who's understanding...

someone who has got the heart to forgive because definitely, misunderstandings are going to arise and what happens if you were married to someone who can't resolve conflict amicably?
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Marriage is bad when you land yourself with someone who literally lacks what a good human being should have.

When you are married to someone who literally derives joy in doing something opposite from the ideal thing

Someone who will call the whole relatives, friends, villagers and well-wishers just to settle a slight issue....

Marriage becomes not a bond of love but rather a bond of burden and suffering.

We always see the trend on the social media, "Married and searching" and it's really happening in various homes.

Marriage would literally cut your lifespan by half when you land with the wrong person.

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No doubt, I have seen a lot of marriages and have witnessed lots of more too....

I will be lying if I say I've got an all good experience to share because there are some families I've witnessed and I wished the husbands and wives never tied the knot in marriage but rather went their separate ways, yes, it was really that bad.

Some Marriages really gives me the enthusiasm that marriage is all fun but some really make me want to remain single.


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What could you expect me to think when I always see parents fighting and cursing themselves even infront of the whole neighbors?

What do you expect from me when I switch on my data only for divorce news to pop up?

What do you expect from me when I see news of parents who sold their child?

What do you expect from me when I see parents going on dumb streak for weeks (without talking to each other) despite sharing same roof?

You obviously expect nothing other than for me to remain single since it's looking like a bad decision to enter into one judging from these set of marriages.

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In that same vein,

What do you expect from me to do when I see a happy progressive home?

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I obviously would want to jump into marriage as it seems the route to success is marriage.

I've seen families celebrating their Golden jubilee and lots more celebrating their silver jubilee and they're always a sight to behold....

Something to cling onto and pray to experience, knowing that The best thing to hold onto in life is each other

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Do You Feel Like It's Worth All The Trouble?

I will be skeptical about answering this because it's very clear that when you have a good husband or wife, Marriage is worth more than gold , but then, when you have an unapt husband or wife, Marriage becomes a hell on earth.

I personally feel marriage is worth it because I know I'll find truly truly my own missing ribs, not that of someone else, hehe

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The prayer is always to find that one or more partners (for my polygamous friends) that really understood that marriage is endurance and perseverance because there's no perfect human being on earth.


Thanks for reading and have a great week ahead 👍



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We should also hope not to endure for the wrong person because that's just going to be torture.

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Obviously that's another truth..... It's not actually enduring and not talking, nah.. that's sad but enduring and discussing about it so that the other person improves on his bad characters and progressively becomes a better husband or wife

Thanks for reading my post, I really appreciate

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There is nothing as a perfect match because we all are work in progress. Some homes will make a single person to feel like remaining single but at the same time good marriages are everywhere. I wish you happy home

All the best

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Exactly... we're all work in progress fam❤️

It's just all about understanding that we are all humans and humans make mistakes too
No lies about your comment... There are good marriages obviously.

I am really glad you read my post and left a feedback, thanks a lot

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There is no perfect man or woman on earth. We all are striving to be the best and for every man out there, there is always someone who completes them just like Adam being complete with Eve.

The prayer we should pray is to find our own right partner. Issues will arise but with the right person, they will resolve it amicably with no one coming in between them to know what is happening.

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Exactly...
Someone once told me that most of the families I see as progressive and Happy families are families that pass through many disagreements but then they always find a way to get back to themselves without people coming in between.

When the villagers help you solve your problems, the same villagers will gather and laugh at your problems...

Thanks for reading and leaving a comment, I really appreciate

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The worst mistake in life is marrying the wrong partner, of your make the wrong choice of course in school you can change but you see marriage is a life time even if you divorce there is that scar in you

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Honestly, it's the worst of what could happen to anyone on earth and sadly, there's no microscope nor telescope to view into the future and know the right person for us....
Marriage is all about Trial and Error

Divorce is never a full solution, there's always a scar left behind.. thanks for making that point

I'm glad you read me and left a reply, thanks a lot

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Hmm this is interesting
Yes true, it Worth more than gold if we find the right spouse
Thanks for sharing this

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I agree with you home that watching how terrible marriage looks like in some homes will make one to be skeptical about getting married, yet, some pass through test of time and still standing strong with happiness and all the good things marriage has to offer. In all, we can't find that perfect partner but we can find that one that understands us better, our friend, the one that forgives, overlooks, etc..

All the best bro

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Hehehe, coming from someone enjoying Marriage.... Let's see what the future holds and how we will eventually end up in our beautiful Homes

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It's not easy to live with someone every day, but when there is love and respect, everything tends to work out.

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You are right, No marriage is perfect, The two parties have to come together in love and understanding to make their marriage work.

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😂 dear you don't need to be afraid trust me marriage is beautiful don't ruin your beautiful idea of marriage because of those negative happenings about marriage. You can do it, those people who celebrates 60years together have their own ups & down too but they conquered it... marriage is everyday learning u learn through problems, misunderstandings and challenges together with love. Don't forget people can pretend to be what they are not, you might start noticing the dynamic in marriage.
don't forget Relationship and marriage are two different thing for people who depend on red flags in relationships be guided.

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I think that says it all.... Conquering the problems that may arise with Love

Where there's love, eventually everything falls back in place

Hehehe, I really need to come and take a lecture on this before I embark on this journey.

Thanks for reading and leaving a comment, I appreciate

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😂 then you need alot of the lectures especially from married couples learn from their mistakes and build your home right. You can go through my blog it might help a little. Always welcome 🤗🤗🤗

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I already went through your blog, hehehe and I'll definitely come for lectures

Lagos here I come😂

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I agree with you...people can't force a wedding when things don't work well. I talked a bit also in my post! Marriage is a trend...people get married to fit into society.

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That's one of the wrongest reasons to enter marriage for....

So sad that's why people enter eventually and run out almost the same time they entered

Oh... I'll check out the post then

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You have said everything in detail bro. There is no perfect marriage, yet having the right partner and you being right yourself will make it look perfect.

Marriage is a beautiful thing, but it is never an easy task. It has a lot of demands that only matured and tough minds can handle.

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Honestly bro... It really takes the matured and string minded to pull that off.

When it comes to marriage, I really think we all needs to think deep about it before eventually entering into it
Thanks for coming around

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Marrying the wrong partner will definitely cut your life into half. Hell on earth is a tough situation to live in. Marriage is complex but I think if we find the right one then it might worth the trouble of sticking it out and making it work.

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Exactly.... It all depends on finding the right person.

With that singular person, everything falls In line

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it's important that we first improve ourselves to be the right person to someone before we keep on looking for the right person for us. marriage is indeed scary but i think when both parties understand each other, marriage become a really beautiful thing.

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Sure... We should always at all times be the change we preach

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Yes, you should 😁👍

He who finds a wife finds a good thing And obtains favor from the LORD. Proverbs 18:22

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Marriage sure is beautiful when you are with the right person. A person that end up with the wrong person has sign up a short lived life

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No doubts about that.
So sad there's no formula to knowing the right person

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I will have to visit the realm of the spirit to know that. some times i just wish i can just take a pick in my future and know how the marriage life turns out so if there should be a change now i can do it

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It is crazy how marriage can be. Two different people can end up being so damn good for each other or damn worse.

Thats why one has to be careful when choosing. I hope you find yours soon and I will be damn ready to love, respect, and adore her.

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😂😂😂😂
Well, you'll really have to wait for long though because it's not yet in my plans, hehe

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