Know The Difference

Andre Hunter

Anger is known to be a strong emotional feeling individuals feel especially when we feel that someone or something has done us wrong.
Anger can be a way for us humans to express our negative feelings towards another individual or a situation. Anger can also be a source of motivation which then yields positive results only if mastered properly and channelled in the right direction.

The problem is Excessive anger

Excessive anger can lead to a whole lot of problems and it never solves any of them.
The feeling of anger may arise in in different situations due to how we interpret and react to those situations.
Everyone has what triggers them into getting angry and there are many triggers in the world today.

• Stress

• Financial situations

• Family misunderstanding

Or even...

• Mental health issues

A lot of mental health issues have anger to be their dominant symptoms and it's not just anger, it's uncontrolled anger. The type that gets individuals hurt and worse.

• Schools

They can also contribute majorly to the list of triggers. Especially when frustration from lecturers and their stressful bureaucratic procedures which are entirely unnecessary but are enforced to make students suffer for no reason.

What may trigger me into anger may not have the same effect on another individual and it goes both ways. I may not react to a certain trigger but another person might.

Also, how we react to such triggers differs too. A particular thing may trigger several people into getting angry but it doesn't mean they'll end up with the same reaction because people are different. Some may flare up and rage all over the place while another individual may study the situation and decide it's not worthy of getting furious and so will decide to remain calm in the face of a storm.

Deciding to stay calm even in the face of the worst triggers is not an easy thing to do as human emotions can get overwhelming and before we know it, we snap.

In some cases, anger can yield positive results if utilized wisely.
Open aggression and uncontrolled anger have never been known to solve a problem. Rage cannot resolve the discord between two or more parties as there will always be the need for revenge and payback which equals further chaos.

As I typed before, anger may yield positive changes in the sense that it becomes a driving force to achieving a better situation for oneself.

For example, a young graduate going about the streets with his resume in hand searching for a job but can't seem to find one. As a result, he is angry with himself and the system in general for this major glitch that they purposely ignore, he then notices that other graduates like himself seem not to be bothered by the difficulty in getting a white collar job.
He sees that they're doing very well for themselves while earning money through other means.
Therefore, his anger motivates him to do research to find out ways he can earn money without having to wait on the companies that promise him a white collar job and a steady salary.
In the end, he ends up successful and earning more than those companies could offer.

I've seen a lot of cases like the one mentioned above and their anger was aimed at getting a better position because they're angry at where they were. The anger was a driving force which dissipates once the goal is achieved which leaves the individual feeling satisfied with himself.

That young man won't have any reason to be angry anymore because he's successful without any company. He's successful because he worked hard himself to earn his success. He achieved his goal and is no longer the bitter young man he used to be.

This is one of the ways anger can yield positive results.

But know the difference!

If your anger is restricting you from yielding positivity then it's not the right kind of anger.

Uncontrolled anger: Aggression, rage, fury cannot yield positivity in any situation no matter what. This type of anger always leads to a sad or very bad ending which could have been avoided if control had been exercised.

Know the difference and learn to control your anger no matter what form it takes be it passive or aggressive.

Thank you for reading. 😇