Capsule Sized

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No, it didn’t mean we have to think lesser of ourselves. The person who told me this treats me like a little sister. If I recall, I may have never seen him without a smile. And of course, the only time he gets slightly sensitive if I didn’t notice him walking by; a typical caring big brother sort of. Now, you might be thinking about what he meant by that.

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He is one of the most simple men I know and also a very hardworking one in my office. He has his principles and moral codes that he follows that sets the bar high to follow by anyone else and I admire him just as much. If you ask something from him and he has it, he will never hesitate to give it to you. And his behavior is so brotherly that if he smacks the back of my head I would be laughing at my own silliness.

He didn’t direct that statement to me; he was describing how he looks at himself. His humble appearance is the reason behind it. He almost never identifies himself as someone bigger than he already is, maybe smaller and more reasonably, with a smile that you can relate to with a 10 years old kid.

Even though I couldn’t completely agree with him 100%, I understood his point. Humility and low self-esteem are two entirely different things. Even this big brother though gentle but never a doormat; he too is intimidating to many others. The way you present yourself depends upon the mannerisms you possess.

Banyan trees are quite a common sight in this region. The stronghold, the stature it resembles greatness. You have to look up to it, you’ll feel admiration towards it. It grows so large that you may start feeling small, but the shade it disperses will remind you of its goodwill. But, why bring a banyan tree in this scenario? This tree also represents kindness and selflessness along with strength, honor, and individuality.

I believe having mild mannerisms, to generate respect from others; maybe slight intimidation too. I don’t really want to strike fear in someone’s heart; I don’t prefer that. I have a rather friendly disposition and someone who listens to what they have to say. And I also have gained some appreciation from others so when it’s my time to say they listen; oftentimes they urge me for advice. I felt I threw away the idea of “seeing yourself as bigger or smaller.” I choose to see myself exactly how I am; seeing others precisely how they are.

I see some people enjoy having a considerably imposing demeanor; even other individuals envy these sorts of men for their semblance. But seldom are these men respected. Where there’s fear, respect doesn’t infuse. You appear more modestly to the guy you value than to somebody you are afraid of; the latter makes you look smaller. It is an exchange of emotion between person to person.