What is the story behind my username? | LOH Contest #65

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Abandoned account

I left my old account for a reason, I didn't want people to connect me with the old account for as long as I felt it was needed. I got fed up with the bullshit that was left in comments by a person that I truly considered my friend until not long before this started to happen. I needed to leave and not give this person the space to bother me with the negativity that was never going to end anymore.

Looking back, I'm really glad I took drastic matters because, like many other times, my gut feeling was 100% correct. After ignoring him completely and not responding to the horrible stuff he commented on, he kept bullying over and over again with an alt account. Smart move, although many of his alt accounts were known to a lot of people, I think nobody knew anything about this particular account that he used to harass me. At the time I could only know it was him because of what he wrote, but to others, this was not clear. I now have proof that it was him. Just in case I need it one day, which I honestly don't hope is ever needed. Let bygones be bygones in this case.

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Online fling who started to claim me

I was in a good flow on Hive (and before that, on Steemit) I built a good reputation at the time and I made a stupid mistake to let myself get carried away with some flirty chats. It was just temporary but he probably felt more and started to claim me everywhere. If I didn't respond on Discord but was chatting on another server, he'd DM me that I did have time for X and Y, and this started to feel very uncomfortable. At the time this started to happen, I started to feel regret and stupid for my behaviour because who was I kidding, this was just an online fling. Nothing more, nothing less.

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I had a goal

When I finally started to see the bigger picture again and work towards some goals for the future, I banned out every negative influence in my life. I just didn't need the bad vibes and constant chat in my inbox. What I needed was to stay focused and keep going. At the same time, I also realized that I needed to make some more free time for my family as I got caught up in online routines while I wasn't too good at managing my time efficiently yet back then. It would often get late at night, which wasn't too good for my health.

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He was very spiteful

He had a mission so it seemed and that was to make sure my boyfriend found out about our chats. Well, he did, after he sent him a few DM's. So I came clean, of course, this wasn't a pleasant chat or pleasant days after, understandably, I hurt his feelings for not telling him myself. At the time he sent these DM's to my boyfriend, it was already over for a while because I was already fed up with his behaviour and didn't even tell my boyfriend about the things he'd done to harass me. After this DM from him, I showed him.

He said to keep ignoring him and didn't stand by my decision to leave completely. Why? Because if he could forgive me for what I did, my own partner, why the hell should I care about what others think? Seems like a fair comment, but as I'd already seen that even 2 months of ignoring him completely would not make him lose interest, I didn't want to sit and wait for him to have another one of his tantrums just when I was in a good flow.

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I left Discord, my old account and didn't chat with anyone for months

I had a full time-out from the world that had become part of my daily routine for four years already. Pretty shitty and strange at first, but it helped a lot that I had quite a few (well-paying) assignments where I could make a lot of hours. So I didn't really need the income from my Hive earnings. I only talked to one person at the time, we met on FB for heaven's sake. Of all places! After several months, I decided to create a new Discord, and slowly DM a few people to let them know I was ok. As some had been asking around. <3

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New account name

And then I was at the point where I wanted to create a new Hive account. Oh you wouldn't believe me if I said I have given this so many thoughts before I actually took the step to create one. I finally had the right name, making a statement to everyone having an opinion about me. This Is My Life So even if people were to act stupid about the things I was ashamed for, while I was already forgiven by the person that was affected the most, this was my way of saying Shut The F Up because This Is My Life.

I've said it before but gonna say it again, I'm still leaving my old account name for you to guess, if at some point you think you know, contact me directly if you wish to have an answer, rather than asking here in public. If I feel comfortable sharing it with you, I will. I still have no room for negative people like that guy and as I know for a fact, he's still having his regular tantrums about other things that happened years ago. Please respect that. Thank you.

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I said it before and say it again you are a brave wise woman and I'm sorry about everything you had been through.

I like your username.

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Thank you, I shouldn't have crossed the line to my boyfriend though. Thankfully, we are soulmates and have been through much worse, nothing we can't get through together.

I'm still not 100% used to my name, but glad you like it! :)

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And I congratulate you for taking the hard decision in coming up with a new account and username. I hope no one would bother you with the negativity anymore. And cheers "thisismylife" for it is :) I love it!

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Thank you so much, I'm still standing behind my decision, it worked out so it's all good.

Thanks for stopping by!

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All good indeed, and cheers to even better days ahead!

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Of course, I am super curious to know who you were before or if I had known you then but I am going to mind my own business and not ask ;p

On another note, I am glad that nightmare is over
And what a scumbag to harass you like that
Urrrggghhhh
Glad your man could move forward with all that had happened

Than you for sharing your story, and that's a good username :D

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Gosh, I forgot another round of replies on this post, I'm sorry!

I'm not really sure if we interacted on my old account, I don't think so, so it wouldn't surprise me if you don't recognize any of my stories that I might have shared a bit in the past as well. All fresh writings of course, but the details can sound familiar if we met before.

And I'm very happy and lucky with my guy, yes :)

Thank you!

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It happens to the best of us - I too have been chasing comments ;D

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Feels shitty if you miss a few that actually made an effort to leave a good comment. But usually at least I read them so the appreciation is always there :)

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Wow.. I am so sorry to hear about everything you have been through, and bad experience online.
I think we all met People Who have turned out to be other than we thought they were.
And I am sorry you been hurt and bullied like that.
BUT... With that said you should be very proud of yourself 😉👍
You didn't give up and you took your life back.
And I absolutly LOOVE your new name thisismylife fits well and you deserve a fresh start and I hope you Will feel at home and only have friends around you that makes you Smile and happy.

Thank you for sharing your story and much love to You ❤️

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Hey there @saffisara your comment in Discord made me realize I forgot to answer here, I'm so sorry! I appreciate every comment and try to answer them as well, sometimes it slips my mind.

I still feel this was the best way to deal with it (for me at least) I banned him out and he probably had some annoyance for dropping comments without any response, which secretly makes me laugh a bit thinking about that. Such a frustrated angry guy who's trying to bully everyone who lets him.

To make sure I wasn't infected with his negativity anymore, I cancelled him :)
Too bad the blockchain also means you can't delete someone's harassing comments. Otherwise, I may have reacted differently.

Thanks for stopping by, your comment is much appreciated <3

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I really am sorry to hear that you had to go through al of this. What a world we live in. But I am glad that you are where you are now, even though you do want to move. Thank you for sharing your story with us @thisismylife xxxx

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Yeah, what a world indeed. So many things that aren't how they're supposed to be. Thanks for stopping by, I appreciate it! <3

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Heeyyy You. 💖

I always say it but that's because it's always true... I am sosososo glad to see your name pop up in a comment section when we haven't crossed paths in a while as it gives me an opportunity to say once again ((like a droning gramophone record stuck on repeat)) that I bloody love ya my friend. Then I feel guilty for a few seconds for not pro-actively crossing paths for a while lol, then I remember guilt serves no purpose and is utterly bloody pointless, right?

I hope you and your girls have started 2022 in the best way possible and I wish you all the love and best wishes in the world. I miss your voice Aish and I know you always felt a tad self conscious about doing it BUT it would be absolutely awesome to do some kinda hangout soon where a few people get to catchup a little.
I actually mentioned that to Breeze a little while back and she loved the idea.

Keep being radiant, spectacular, unique and mag-bloody-nificent oh lovely one. take good care, I'm sure we will proactively cross paths again soon haha 🙂

Dunno if I ever mentioned it before but this is the biggest compliment I can pay, when I see your username/avatar, I smile! Granted I do it a bit like a giddy 14 year old girl ((not at all cool!!!)) and not an almost 50 year old weird English Nutcase.

Maybe next time I will try nonchalantly, keeping my cool and say

Hey Aish.

...and nothing more... Nah! Never gonna happen, right?

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Awwwh, from the heart, I can feel that. She's such a champ, isn't she :)

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Wow! Although It was interesting to hear the origins of your name it's a bloody shame that it stems from being harassed and tortured by an idiot (there's a few of them around, right?)

New name, new account, new perspective and you've made the very most of it, it seems, good for you. Yes of course I was supposed to be commenting on your music post for the WE but the origin story intrigued me and uhm... Here I am haha.

Thisismylife... It certainly bloody is and as we only ever get one of those and no option of an extended warranty then steering clear of jerks and 'cutting them off' is a prudent course of action, good for you.

Happy, shiny new week to you and yours from me and mine 😎

!PIZZA

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Let me tell you (not going to mention the name here though) that we have already met many many times before? I was happy to see your name pop up here as we had quite some fun in the past chatting.

(there's a few of them around, right?)

YES! But easy to ignore most of the time, this one was like a cockroach though, wouldn't stop.

Happy, shiny new week to you and yours from me and mine

And nothing less to you @stevenwood and let's stay connected!

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