Fear of rejection.

The fear I conquered that made me stronger. Fear has always been that enemy that pears through the heart of every living soul. I want to share with you all about the fear I conquered that really made me stronger. That fear is the fear of being rejected. Throughout my life, rejection has always been my stumbling stone; it's more like a barrier 🚧 to success, but we don't get to see it on time because we spend so much of our time seeking validation from others to proceed with what will bring progress to our lives, even theirs sometimes.

You know the life we live in our country Nigeria, so many bullies and oppressors , from social media to real life they exist both in family, marriage, friendship and relationships, I have seen where the fear of rejection actually crush the dream of others often sending them into depression or trauma, once upon a time in my life i had a fear of rejection, in fact more than anything I could come across , rejection made me lose my self respect, rejection made me underestimate my worth and abilities, always loosing confidence in public because of the fear of been rejected, but while coming up I keep on studying my environment and the entire world on how it operates and and often feed on the fear of people to thrive , I took my time to understand why people reject Ideas of others even if it's the best , or why do others reject some certain people even though they are very kind!

The moment I asked myself that question, I noticed people use rejected as a weapon to weaken and destroy others , I came to understand that sometimes or most time , people and Ideas get rejected not because they're bad or doesn't meet up to standard they reject it because they just don't like it, more of self interest or an agenda to put it or them down for selfish interests.. I cracked this code in life, and at that moment I began to appreciate my ideas that had been rejected in some places, so it wasn't actually about my idea, but because it was me that brought it, that was why it was rejected. At last I am not feeling like a victor; I felt that victory within me that I really conquered that fear of rejection.

I no longer care who rejected me or my idea as long as it doesn't go against the rules of nature. The moment people reject me or my ideas, I simply thank God that I contributed, and then I move on without feeling bad about myself; perhaps I understand the selfish nature of humans. I can only give reasons why my opinion should be considered but never to be forced into acceptance, for some ofcourse I'll need to force if I'm in total control and it's the best opinion I wouldn't want the bad eggs to spoil it because of self hatred and selfishness. I'm happy to share this with you thank you for stopping by I hope you're blessed 😊🙏