Choose your words rightly or keep quite
It has been a while since I dropped something on here, I think I’ve really been busy with schoolwork that I haven’t had any good thoughts to share with you guys. Today I want to share what I have learned in recent days, which is about Knowing when to talk and why we should mind the way we talk to others.
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This observation came to mind when I witnessed a bad situation and quarrel between two of my best friends at school. It all came down to when one friend of mine said something hurtful and it was out of order. Normally as guys, we usually brush things like this off and move on with no hard feelings. This time, it turned out that my friend with the offensive behavior had been found to be very fond of such behavior and my other friend couldn’t just sit down and let it go without making things right.
The quarrel went on for several minutes after many efforts to separate them. Basically, all that I want to say is that we should be mindful of how we speak to others even if we are extremely comfortable with the other person. Others may let things slide just for the sake of friendship, but some may not. This is why it is always important to learn how you speak to others, or more so just keep quite to keep the peace.
sourceAfter the little outburst, we were able to sit both friends together and find a solution to resolve their quarrel and I think each and everyone one of us were able to learn a lesson or two from that. Each and everyone of us have a different mindset and something you might find to be a joke, could seem offensive to another person. We should learn to know our boundaries as friends, only with that can we maintain a peaceful coexistence.
In addition, people should understand that it’s not always all the time that one should voice out your opinions, sometime it is good to keep your thoughts to yourself. Many of the time some people do not know when to shut up. I realize that sometimes when the conversation isn’t going well or it’s leading into a rough argument, it’s better to just keep quiet if you don’t want to say things you might regret later.
Lastly, one other thing I’ve realized is that anytime there is an argument things come out of our mouth that may not be intended to have come but later on, there is some sort of remorseful feeling. For me, I don’t like to have intense arguments because I know for sure that I may sit back and regret the things I’ve said.
This is all I have to share with you guys today, I hope you find something in here useful. Also I would love to have you share your opinions about this topic. Until then, see you on the next one. Have a great week ahead :)
Sorry for the delay in getting to this one, was on holiday!
It's good that you and your friends were able to see the situation and uncover a way to get past it amicably. A lot of people sadly don't get that same intelligence! I've had situations in the past that ruined friendships because someone went too far and folks didn't care enough to sit down and resolve it.
Yeah sometimes there is a need to sit down and talk about it in order to resolve your issues with one another. In another case too, some people use the friendship to overstep boundaries and say things they aren’t supposed to say and jokingly it may upset another person.
Thank you for reaching on to my post, and oh… better late than never lol.
Yeah for sure, people use and abuse friendship. I recently removed a few of my friends that used me for their own good instead of being a good friend themselves. Sadly people are shitty in a lot of situations!