Does marriage limit women from fulfilling their full potentials or is it a choice
It is quite saddening that marriage has to some extent prune the ambitions of most women. Only a few are strong enough to manage family business and career.
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While some women get cover under the umbrella of feminism to fight for equality and run their business and careers without marriage and family stopping it.
This is quite good, marriage shouldn't collapse your life's plans and goals, we are different people with entirely different plans for our future and the society and marriage shouldn't hinder that.
However if our dreams are not properly managed alongside marriage and family can cause great damage to members involved.
During my stay in secondary school, we normally have a female forum dedicated to all the girl children in the school. My English teacher who happens to be our coach engaged us in a very interesting topic once and I am sharing it with all the great ladies out here in this community.
Does marriage limit women from fulfilling their full potential or is it a choice?
Well this question is a very technical one which requires a lot of intellectual analysis so you don't be biased in your answer. Let's take it bit by bit.
Marriage can limit…
Marriage can be a limit in the sense that most women go into marriage with the traditional mentality that marriage is the ultimate and the most important course of life or perhaps final destination of every woman thereby relenting or surrendering her goals in life once married. This happens a lot in our society today. Especially young ladies that are desperate or pressured to get married. Others Mostly happened in the olden days or some societies that send out their daughters in marriage.
This to some extent cripples their young dreams and the only thing they can think of is husband and children and taking care of the house.
Marriage can also be a limit to dreams if the woman is ill-prepared for marriage by failing to acquire the values and skills that marriage will tax.
A Lady can fulfil her best potential still in marriage
On the other hand, marriage can make you fulfill and leave your dreams if you are engaged with the right person. Somebody that is a supportive and sensitive spouse will help her become more. Like the saying, "one can chase a thousand and two, ten thousand"
Before marriage, during dating or courtship, it is important to communicate your goals especially if you are career orientated. Have plans on how to run the home and care for the children when they come. Be sure your spouse is ready and willing to support your plans.
Some view marriage as quick sand for women, hence, the need for a supportive spouse can't be overemphasized.
Marriage should be between two people that have the same mindset. By same mindset I don't mean the same career but the ability for one to push the other in their career. There is a bank of knowledge about each other's career.
I have noticed that some women are the perpetrators of the limits they decry of. When they are comfortable with being financially dependent, crave for a lifestyle they can't fund and refuse to be committed and intentional about their personal goals, they will claim to have been limited by marriage. This causes a big stir in marriage. How?
The man gets intimidated by the woman's financial strength especially when the woman keeps hammering on the fact that she is the breadwinner.
This is the 21st century, women have progressed tremendously beyond traditional roles and limits.
Nothing limits the woman but her choice.
Marriage and career can be well managed.
Marriage should not end any woman's dream.
This is a very good area of concern, I always emphasize on how ladies at young age been more focused on thier career so as not to be stressful during marriage.
A woman can still be married and cope with her career if she starts planning early, some might need a house help whilst some does it alone.
Where it seems very stressful is when a woman is about to go into a career at point of marriage or after been married.
But it doesn't matter especially in this part of our culture it's believed once a woman is married she should leave her career and focus on her family. I think the society need to justify this fairly by giving the woman time off especially when she is about to put to bed. Thanks for sharing, its really a topic of concern.
Thanks for sharing your opinions as well
I stand firmly with you
Women have their own live and the society should respect that too.
Depending on the approach, marriage can either hamper one's dreams or propel it. It's great to read your thoughts on it and true what you said that marriage should not be a reason for one to set aside his/her career. It may need some adjustments but to totally give it up depends on the person involved.
!LADY
Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thought
My hive friend
You're welcome and thank you too :)
If you choose a great partner then I think you can still reach your dreams as a woman. However many have stranded on the traditions that if they get married their role is only working at home. Babysitting and doing household chores.
Nowadays we have varied organizations fighting for women empowerment. They're helping us to break the stereotype.
Exactly
Marrying right is the goal
Most partners go a long way in supporting their spouse in their careers.
These things are best discussed before entering marriage with your partner