MY ROLE AS A MEDIATOR BETWEEN TWO DISPUTANTS
Conflict and disagreement over various points of view, opinions, and approaches to things are among the most frequent phenomena among people. Although engaging in conflict may not always be desirable, it is one of the things that makes people so beautiful because it allows each person to be distinctive and stand out in their own way.
Personally, I'm not a kind of person who love being in anything related to dispute, conflict and the likes, but then when ever I find myself in one, I tend to look for every means to come into a consensus with the person or at least let the dispute slide for peace to reign.
But when putting the subject matter of this topic into consideration, that's being a mediator between two people who's having one form of disagreement or the other, it's s on a whole new level, because being a middle man in this situation can hit us in different ways, in a nutshell it's a two side of a coin, that can either end with your being praised for your act or being regretfully for ever getting involved in such conflict.
MY EXPERIENCE AS A MEDIATOR
I've had countless experience of being a mediator between two people who are involve in a disagreement, but I can practically say most of it hasn't end we'll, or end to my envisioned ending, although I get to realize there are something's I was doing wrong in the cases of those that went wrong, and I realized when I make amend in those mistake, then most of the conflict go away without me regretting being involved like I once do.
One of the dispute I dislike getting involve in the most, is those relating to relationship/marriage, settling dispute between lovers takes a high level of wisdom and thorough review and flittering of each words within you, before you say it out, else this words will be held against you in the nearest future, either after they settled or if the relationship ended up going down the drain via the actual dispute you got in as a mediator.
I can remember I once tried to settle a dispute between a couple in the house I was staying some years ago, but no matter how much I tried, there seems to be stiff headed about their disagreement, but I made a terrible mistake by pointing out their individual mistake in the partner present, and the next thing I heard was how dare you refer to my husband like that, it's not your fault, it's we that stood so low, I was so disappointed in myself that every day, and vowed never to get involved in any of their constant fight, and before I know it I became a laughingstock between them.
It was a painful experience, but I noticed where I went wrong, and after avoiding their other fights, I couldn't take it any longer watching them shout, beat and disgrace each other in the neighborhood, so I got involved once again, try and came their nerve and get each person to different place to discuss and iron out how to curb the fight, by advising each of them to resist doing whatever it's that stir up their continuous dispute.
I believe this really helped, because for the first time that I knew them, which was going to like 3 years, they didn't having any loud dispute for three weeks stretch, I was happy, and had to give credit to some of the dispute management books I read, though they later divorce after about five years of marriage, but in my opinion, I think that's the best thing for them with the rate at which they fight weekly.
This article was inspired by the hive learners community feature topic, that talks about being a middle man/mediator between two people who are involve in a fight, you can read through @kronias post to get full details about the necessity needed to make a post ok the topic.