self-denial motivated by a desire for financial independence
I'm probably among the top people who live in self-denial among my circle and leagues of friends; it's not as though I don't know the right thing to do or how to do it, but then I've so programmed myself to sacrifice my time, effort, and money for a course to the point where it seems to be at my own detriment, yet I stood firm in that line, hoping that I'll attain the height I desired, and hopefully thereafter I can relax.
Right from my tender age, I've always envisioned being rich and Living a comfortable life, and I was so obsessed with that dream to the point where I gave it my all to make it a reality. I guess being someone who has tasted poverty by coming from a family that isn't up to middle class and also knows what it feels like to lack and need something without being able to get such things changed my mindset to want to change my life story for good.
It's very funny and unthinkable when some of my friends see my account worth and the amount I get as a wage from my offline job, and yet I live as though I bearily earn up to 14 of that. My lifestyle doesn't display what I'm worthy of, and I tend to just stay simple and live as day as they come, unlike my friends who go clubbing and own the latest and best gadgets, and yet I, who earn more than they all do, still find it hard to purchase a new smartphone and laptop, even though I really need both alongside other items.
I was speaking to a friend of mine a few days ago about clothing shopping and attire, and what inspired the conversation was the fact that he complained about the fact that I've been wearing the same set of clothes he has known me with for the past few years, and after the conversation I myself thought deeply about it and realized I've not purchased any clothing whatever for myself since the year 2021; that's about 2 years, and I don't even think it counts because all the clothing I purchased for myself that year wasn't even more than 3.
It wasn't like I was stingy or didn't want to spend money; in fact, no year has passed that I've failed to buy clothes for my parents and siblings. I love to see them happy and in good spirits, but when it comes to buying for myself, I then remember how I need to invest in my finances in order to have a prosperous future and also strategize my investment in a way whereby my money will be working for me in my absence.
So rather than live large, party, or buy some gadgets I felt I really needed, I instead indulged in an investment and saving culture to create wealth for myself and my future family. I can even remember the last time my phone's screen was damaged. I already spoke with an engineer to help me search for a new phone to use as an alternative should such a thing happen again, but midway through the deal, I was told about a real estate investment plan, and before I knew it, I ditched the phone purchase and went for the investment.
MY WAY FORWARD
Well, to me, what I'm doing isn't really bad, and I don't see myself stopping most of it anytime soon, but one aspect I've vowed to give preference to looking into for now is the aspect of clothing. I guess it's high time I purchase some new clothes so I can have something to alternate with when going to work, to look decent, mature, and responsible as a teacher ought to be, and I've decided to visit a fabric market once we go on vacation, so I can pick as many as possible to satisfy myself a bit like I do those around me.
I'm also looking into probably purchasing a laptop and a better phone than the one I'm using presently. While I wish to do this, I don't think I'm capable of it for now, and neither am I ready to power down to bring those wishes to reality, but I'll keep them in mind in case I hit a gold mine in my quest for prosperity via investment.
This is written in response to the Hive Learners community prompt on self-denial.
NOTE: The thumbnails was designed by me on canva, while others were snapped with my smartphone.
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I can’t totally relate. The feeling that it is your responsibility to build your self more like investment or savings of something tangible like starting an okay family. You are indeed selfless.
It is so nice of you to put your others in remembrance
It's indeed, and I'll continue in that pattern, just that I'll need to give wrong to acquire some needs.
No matter what bro, i think you still need to invest in yourself. If not for anything it makes you more productive. Glad you see that too and is going to do something about it.
Yea that's true, and I'm working on that. The device would be instrumental.
I'm glad that you have already considered buying clothes for yourself, though. Investing in yourself from your wants is not bad. We only live once, but it doesn't mean that we will not think about our future finances. That's just my sentiment, though.
Yea it's true. It's a weird act I indulge in and I've decided to change.
Well, if you deny yourself some luxury because of investment purposes, it is not all that bad as most people who take responsibility for their finances are always constantly on the lookout for financial growth, they call it denial, we call it a scale of preference.
Yea that's more or like it there, it's all about investing all in the most important aspect at the moment, but then like I said, I'll try and do things differently in some aspects.
Wow! I did not know you are a teacher, that's good of my man , all what you said was as If you are speaking my mind , I don't show up for people to see my worth , instead I am busy investing and looking forward on how to escape poverty finally, I also came from a poor background but I thank God we will laugh at last.thanks for sharing
Yea I'm a teacher my brother.
Living large and spending all we had will only reduce our worth and as well put us on a downward slope financially rather than uplift us, so it's better to be wise with our dealings.
God bless our hustle and grant us increase on all side.
You need to know that you come first, invest in yourself, and I really love the way you care about your parent and siblings that shows you have their interest at heart. Nice write up
Yea I'm, just trying to cut cost, but I know better now and would make a difference, thanks for your advice and stopping by.
U are welcome
What can I say other than you have a strong passion for what you pursue; and I must say having your money work for you even when you're not there is the best form of income everyone should strive for.
Thanks for the compliment brotherly, it's indeed the best form of investments.
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The self denial to invest for your future. Delay gratification. that is something every man needs to have a prosperous future. I used to be very much like you though I loved gadgets but now, I really need to work more on myself to bring down my expenses so that I can have more to invest for my future.
Thanks brother for sharing this post.
Yea it's a necessity for men especially since much is expected of us.
But then I think I took it a bit too far, I plan on making amends in some aspects and as well uphold some till I'm financial stable.
Thanks for your visit boss.
Well, depriving yourself of those luxuries thereby satisfying your family and working your way through investment isn't that bad because in the end, we will come to enjoy it if God says so, but just like my sister would advice: you first.... enjoy your life because it doesn't have a duplicate. But in all, we can always come to a balance.
Lols your sister is also right, but then it's what it's. Both are good but then we're seeing things differently, I'm glad you think what I'm doing us also cool.
Investment is key to financial freedom, nobody is stingy with themselves we just have plans.
Yea that's true and straight to the point.
This sounds a lot like me. I've been complaining of how bad my phone is, but when ever I get money for a new phone I end up using it for either school, family or something that will give me ROI😂
Lols we're indeed alike then, I hope we finally get those items someday, but then what we spend on instead are essential too.
Yes, they are very essential.
Hahaha 😂. You got me laughing all through. Your friend already know you with one type of clothe. Well, I know that you have a better plan for your self. Some people will just begin to show everywhere especially if they have a little money. It is good to save for the rainy days.
Thanks for sharing.
Yea it's funny truely, I felt embarrassed though but then Saving can't never be overemphasized.
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Wow... To be sincere, I love your courage. Keeping your mum and siblings happy, but leaving yourself suffering. You really are ready to achieve the best in life.
Thanks for your wonderful and kind words.