Female financial stereotypes

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I hate feeling disappointed by my gender but when things bother me, I can't help but feel irritated and share it.

Almost every Nigerian guy has a silly story to tell about an experience with a girl he least expected to be entitled. It's heartbreaking to hear. I can't fight for my gender because I don't know where to begin my fight from.

I don't know about other experiences from diferent parts of the world so I guess I'm a little curious. Is this normal everywhere else or are we just over doing it?

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Well, I'm a married man from the U.S., so I may not be the best observer of this now, but I'll give my thoughts anyway because I support you:
First off I think your confusion and criticism is very valid, there are some good questions here!
Secondly, girls in the U.S. are mostly different, though I have seen this happen it's more rare from what I have witnessed.

Also, I think it's completely fine to turn someone down who is asking for funds in that way. Now sure, it could be a situation where you really are one of their last resorts and they NEED this money... That's still not your fault if your turned them down for asking right away like that. It would be one thing to call in a friendly way, catch up and say "look to be honest I'm in some serious financial trouble..." Or something similar. If someone calls you for the first time in years asking for money right away, that does bring up some suspicion. It appears as if they are simply calling people in an attempt to trick them into handing over free money. It's always hard though, because if you're like me you want to help people, but sometimes the situation is unclear, suspicious or the person is rude and you have to take priority over yourself in those situations. I suppose it is up for discretion, but personally I would not call someone in that way. I may call close friends or relatives for help but not someone that is nearly a stranger at this point.

Also, I wouldn't put the blame on the women or any party in particular. Why do they ask for money so often?
Do men typically try to take ownership of all the finances? Is it hard for women to get work? Are there systematic issues that would cause something like this to start happening regularly to the point of acceptance? That shouldn't really be something common, so I would wonder if it is the result of other issues around sexism or rights.

I guess my question would be: Why are there so many women who are asking for money if that's the case?

I had my wife give this a look over in hopes I am not coming across as insensitive or ignorant so I hope that's the case haha!

Have a great week!

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Thanks for this interesting response. I hope you don't mind if I enquire from other male folk and give an answer in another video?
I would also like to tag you if that's okay.
The opinions of guys are so interesting especially coz I get to hear views from other cultures.
Thank you for stopping by.

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That sounds good, you're free to tag me whenever you'd like. 😄
Thanks again for posting, I think it's a worthwhile and interesting topic to discuss.
Look forward to your future posts!

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As someone who has traveled to a good number of countries and is knowledgeable in the subject of inter-gender dynamics, let me say this: it depends on the country, but generally yes...the trend is going toward more and more women having entitled attitudes, and it is causing big problems I am afraid.

There are multiple reasons for this. First, TINDER absolutely destroyed realistic expectations for most young women. Girls that were normal or even humble humble previously, sign up to this app and are shocked to get thousands of (desperate) men all liking them and trying to take them on a date. So naturally, many of these young women (even the average looking or unattractive ones) then think "wow, I must be in the top 1% of women to get this many matches!", which massively inflates their ego and sense of entitlement. What they do not realize is, almost all girls (except for perhaps the bottom 20% or so) get this many matches. Most men just click "like" on ANY girl that they are even mildly attracted to. Furthermore, women having big egos makes them arrogant, and arrogance is a very masculine trait...so some of these women actually start to become less attractive to men as time goes on and they cant figure out why.

The other problem is on the male side...because most women now have huge egos and demand only the best men (studies show that most women find 80% of men ugly, even women that are unattractive themselves feel this way), so men get desperate and become SIMPS. Simps are men that worship women and do whatever they say, including giving them money or other degrading/insulting tasks. Simps are generally low confidence and passive men, who think that by doing whatever women say, that the girls will start to like them, but they do not realize that women are instinctually repulsed by this kind of behavior.

So the women are basically rewarded for their bad behavior by male simps, which makes the problem even worse. That is why the problem is getting worse and worse.

I think I heard you say you are Nigeria, is that right? Well, believe it or not, a country like Nigeria actually has quite LOW entitlement compared to other parts of the world! So if you think it is bad there, just imagine how catastrophically worse it is elsewhere. The USA and Western Europe are complete disasters...it is so bad that around 60% of young women here are so depressed that they need medication for it, around 3 of 4 marriages fail, and women are the ones to destroy their own marriages too; about 80% of divorces are files by women (because they have been brainwashed to think "I am a 1% woman, therefore, I can do better, and he is not good enough").

At this point, it is probably too late for women to change on their own (no offense to you, just being honest with my opinion), they are too far gone. The only hope now is if men help other men to stop simping, as the simping is what makes it worse and worse. especially when it comes to giving money, simps are the worst about this, and it makes women obsessed with getting money, which makes women's personalities and ethics much worse, and they come to EXPECT that men should give them money and they are simply owed money for no reason other than that they are a women.

Those of us who are not simps, we are sick of the way things are, and are unhappy with the quality of most modern women today. This situation does give more average looking girls a big opportunity however...men are so sick of the gold diggers and entitled ego driven women that humble and feminine or traditional women, even average or sub-average ones, are in HUGE demand. Men will compromise on looks, they just want a woman that is humble and likable. I myself would take a woman that is a 5 in looks but humble over an entitled 10 any day, and this feeling is only growing.

Hope that gives some insight. If you have any questions, let me know. Also, I have a show on Youtube that teaches about these things that I can share if you are interested.

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Do you feel dating sites are a major cause? Or is it just social media in general?
I've put out this question for a couple of guys to respond and I would love to make a video talking about what they have to say about this. Would it be okay if I tag you when I'm given more responses?
I would like to talk extensively on this again because the comments make it an exciting topic.

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Well, other dating sites also contribute to the issue, but Tinder dwarfs all other dating sites these days, and most of the competition have cloned the "swipe right" feature, so they are just as bad. You know things are bad when I look through Tinder profiles and 20-30% of the girls dont even bother to fill out their dating profile, it is literally blank in the area where they are supposed to describe themself. Why? Because they know it doesnt matter what they do, they will get endless matches no matter what.

If you want to see something amazing sometime, lookup some average guy's photo online sometime and create a fake Tinder profile with it...see how many matches he gets, and then do the same with an average looking girl. The difference is insane: the woman will get 1000-2000+ likes in half a day, and I bet the man gets NONE...zero.

Regarding social media, that is not much better. Instagram especially, many girls use it as a tool to show off and try to get famous. That is why you suddenly see millions of girls who all claim they are "models" now. They are not models, they just post photos of their butt on Instagram, but they still put their job as model anyway (even if they make $0). And Instagram, Facebook etc, still has "likes" just like dating sites/apps, so even when theyre not looking for a date, they are just constantly bombarded with notifications of "_____ liked your photo" all day. That is why women are much more addicted to their cellphone than men, validation is like a drug. They become physically addicted to the dopamine hit from seeing their social validation.

Its obvious why this is bad for men, but what is less obvious is why it is (almost as) bad for women too. But that is another subject for a different day, my typing fingers are worn out for the evening, ha ha. Remind me tomorrow or in the future and I will be happy to elaborate another time, though.

Yes, feel free to tag me if you want, I always enjoy discussing this subject. I am a somewhat blunt guy, but I do try to explain things tactfully as not to be too offensive. Why? because the sooner people are aware of the problem and what is really happening, the sooner we can solve this massive global crisis. This is one of the greatest social issues in our lifetime, and very few people talk about it, so thank you for discussing it, and also for your honesty and open mindedness, not everyone can do so without letting emotions get the best of them.

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Wow. I feel like I've learned alot by reading your pages. So many things now begin to make sense. I so love your contribution 😃❤️

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Deraaa, I am glad that you learned from some of my posts. Sometimes people become emotional and say that I am rude, or respond by getting emotional, but that is good that you used this information to learn...that is the goal, if we can learn from each other, then we can all become better and more happy people. It shows that you have a good attitude and good character, because you were open minded and decided to learn from the discussion.

Men and women are at a point in history where a large % of both are extremely unhappy. For men, there are estimates that only about 10-15% of men have sex regularly, testosterone levels are the worst they have ever been in history (which makes men tired, lack confidence, have sexual issues, etc), and social media means that men now have to compete with men all over the world, not just in their neighborhood. Most working class men with blue collar jobs are usually looked down upon by society as well, so even if they make $80k/year+, it is still almost impossible for them to raise their social status. this leads to mass depression of men. Women have had their expectations distorted by social media, and have almost unlimited access to sex, but the more random sex a woman has with different men, her brain chemistry actually changes, and the harder it is for her to "pair bond" with a man, and over time she actually starts to lose the ability to love a single man, which as you can imagine has devastating effects. This is why so many women these days under 30 are either alcoholics (especially with wine, because wine is viewed as more of a "soft" alcohol), or are on anti-depressants. Hedonism always leads to depression in the end (for both men and women), because there comes a point where you can no longer top your previous mindblowing experience and there is suddenly nothing to look forward to in life anymore.

The sooner that men and women learn the reality of our sad situation, the sooner we can try to solve this global crisis.

EDIT: If you ever have any questions, please feel free to ask. I have been studying inter-gender dynamics since about 2015 or so.

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Yeah. The feeling of entitlement is a common thing amongst young Nigerian ladies. Alot of beautiful girls believe they're good looks is a good enough reason for them to have access to a man's money.

The society in general is all messed up these days. Alot of guys are of the impression that girls are all about money & material things & to a good extent, they're. And this result to a cycle of unhealthy friendships & relationships.

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It causes a serious lack of respect. So when men meet the ones that are not entitled they don't know how to react and some of them turn around and become entitled just because they want to know how it feels and they end up ruining great relationships.

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Lol thank God I met @blezyn. Before we dated, I stopped rating Nigerian women. Relationships are transactional here, trade sex for money, that's the norm. And to be frank, it's not just the females. In this part of the world, we are very materialistic. Everyone wants something from you with no intention of giving anything in return. This is one of the reasons I want to leave.

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I think everyone everywhere has a little bit of materialism in them. Just to different degrees. The major problem is entitlement. People just feel they are owed something for one silly reason or another.

I think while a lot of Nigerian ladies are this way, some sane ones exist. We're rare but yeah, we exist. What's ruining us, and by us, I refer to myself, is entitled males.

To a large extent, some males have this idea that when a lady doesn't ask it means she doesn't need so in other words, she has a lot. Then they decide to take.

Same way you tire for Nigerian ladies, na so I tire for Nigerian men.

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To a large extent, some males have this idea that when a lady doesn't ask it means she doesn't need so in other words, she has a lot. Then they decide to take.

I think this is different in a relationship. I am always pressing my partner to be vocal about her needs as I am. There is nothing wrong with that (we are in this together and should be happy and fulfillment). However, it is a total ball game when you are just meeting someone and they are demanding for things they did not earn.

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It's eaten so deep, there's no going back. I wish all Nigerian guys would stop giving in to these entitled demands but a lot of guys enjoy using money as a tool to get women. So...here we are in this transactional world that has birthed entitled women.

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It's not a Nigerian thing, it is worldwide and I think before talking about it now, we need to go back to the beginning.

Women are raised to see men as providers and all that so I feel like that has played a major role in what is happening right now.

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"It cannot happen that a woman may become a Tathāgata, a Sammsambuddha."

Gautama Buddha, Aṅguttara Nikāya 3.14

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This is such a huge topic. It’s easy to say that it doesn’t take place in America or Japan but I think it just takes different forms. Talk to a guy or girl about their experience with Tinder and you see the phenomenon is alive and well and is actually not just one way. It’s two ways between sex and money or sex and security.

Some might call it biological for a man to desire sex and a woman to desire security but if we can get out of survival mode, we can think rationally and also develop relationships that don’t follow that pattern.

If we can trust that life has enough for us and that someone isn’t going to take what we need away from us, we become better over time, though the rate depends on the person and the things they fill their mind with, and the people they surround themselves with.

I am really thankful that I had a lot of female friends (not to mention mixed race friends) growing up because it helped me learn how to see people as people and respect everyone as individuals. I still make stereotypes but they are just tools and I always question them, plus I’ll never judge an individual based on a stereotype and if I do, I’ll gladly put my foot in my mouth.

As a rule of thumb, I don’t attempt to get close with anyone who doesn’t have honest friends of the opposite sex.

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