Blooming with Honor 🌼Sprinkles of Joy: Celebrating the Little Things in Life

The fragrance of flowers and the fragrant gardens, butterflies flying and dancing in the gardens, and then the chirping of various birds in the flower garden, and the bees being seduced by the fragrance of the flowers and falling in love with them. All these are the sights that we humans see every day in fragrant gardens. Whether the garden is of a person's life or of flowers or of fruits, the entire garden always spreads its fragrance and spreads it as soon as it dies. Similarly, a garden of a person's life, a fragrant rose, is also his family. I compare each member of this family to a flower. Just as butterflies dance and dance on beautiful flowers, similarly, the lives of parents and the happiness of parents dance like butterflies on seeing the smiling faces of children, because children are beautiful flowers and every child is a bud for their parents, a bud that blooms and the parents wish that this flower grows young and spreads its fragrance throughout the world and the fragrance is the fragrance of love, the fragrance of respect and honor.

Every day spent in happiness, spent with children, spent with good friends is called Eid day. When parents sit with their children, talk to their children, discuss their dreams, their desires, and when they discuss likes and dislikes, this discussion becomes a beautiful discussion. I would like to write here that sometimes parents talk to their children very angrily and are not able to give time to their children. They become so busy in life that they do not even have time for their children and they get so lost in business and economy that they forget about family and every love related to family. But my purpose in writing this here is not that they forget about children, rather I believe that every father has this desire. All parents in general have this desire that whatever they work for, whatever they earn, whatever they achieve, they want their children to live a happy life. They hope to live a happy life and get the best education, but they forget that they also have to spend time with their children, go out with their children, play with their children, and learn about their children's hobbies, likes, and dislikes. Until parents sit down and talk with their children, they will not give their children time. They will not be able to win the hearts of their children because children always follow their parents' lead. They want their parents to take them for walks, take them for walks, take them out to eat, ask them about their educational progress and achievements and encourage them. If parents stay away from their children due to all these things, the children become very irritable and fear and a kind of jealousy arise in the children. So parents should definitely mix with their children and be like friends with them.

Yesterday afternoon, a friend of mine came to meet me and he had a cake with almonds in his hand. My friend knows that I love almond cakes. My friend came to meet me with his children, but he said that when he was coming towards me, his children stayed at his maternal uncle's house, but he wanted me to bring them with me to meet his friend. Then when my friend told me this, I promised him that I would definitely come to meet his children one day. Then I called my children and made him meet my friend. My friend is abroad and he came to my village after eight years. We met yesterday afternoon after eight years. I was very happy to meet my friend, but my friend told me one thing. My friend tells me that you are very lucky that you are spending time with your children and your family and I have returned home after eight years and have met my children after eight years. My children are not very attached to me. My children do not talk to me openly. My children feel hesitant when they meet me or talk to me. He was telling me all these things in sorrow and he was telling me to always value your children and train them well. He told me that the importance of children is appreciated when a father is away from his children. When the memory of children haunts him, a person yearns and thinks that he wishes he had wings and could fly to his children. But due to compulsion, I am abroad and I want to return as soon as possible. My friend wanted him to return to his homeland before the children became young so that the children would not feel that their father had not been with them throughout their childhood. Thus, when he told me these things, I immediately became silent and started thinking and started thanking Allah Almighty that Allah has kept me with his children and I am spending time with my children. I always consider my children as friends. I always try to fulfill every legitimate wish of my children. I try my best, just like you realize the importance of children when you are away from them.

When my friend went back, we sat together and cut an almond cake. My daughter wanted to have her picture taken with the almond cake, so I have taken these beautiful pictures of her, which I am sharing with you all. I also want to tell you here that children are dear to all parents. Every child is the apple of the parents' eyes, the fragrance of the house, a shining, fragrant flower. But some children are also pampered at home, they are also very loved at home, and because of this pampering, those children sometimes become very naughty. So pamper children, do mischief with children, fulfill the wishes of children, but those wishes that are permissible, that are beneficial for children, that create an element of motivation in children, that encourage children to move forward. Always do not give priority to your stubbornness over the stubbornness of children, but make your children your friends. Just as you share your wishes, hopes, dreams, failures, successes with your friends, in the same way, share all your successes, failures, and goals of your life with your children. Be sure to share it with us because just as a friend encourages you, your children also become a source of encouragement for you. Children are not just children. When you encourage children, when you give them hope, when you encourage them, when you try to make them strong, and when you make them friends, then they hold your hand and lead you to success because they do not leave you alone in failures. Just as a sincere friend does not leave you alone in failures, similarly children never leave their parents alone in failures. But the condition is that parents train their children properly and instill in them a mindset that loves humanity. Only then can we achieve our goals.

When I made pictures of my daughter with the cake, my daughter said, "Dad, show me how those pictures are made." When I showed the pictures, my daughter was happy and said, "Dad, thank you very much." These words from my daughter were very happy and sweet words for me. When children thank their parents, it indicates that children love their parents. When we fulfill the legitimate desires of our children, children treat their parents with love and compassion. That love and compassion arise naturally in them because every child is drawn to his parents, drawn to his parents, and he wants to be close to his parents. Similarly, when we hold our children close to our parents, the child feels as if he has reached a very safe place. Because the child is protected by his parents, the child's future is protected by his parents, and the child's wishes are fulfilled by his parents. It is the duty of parents to give good training to their children. Give children a good education, give children good food, give children good clothes, give children good shoes, fulfill every legitimate desire of children and make children good human beings. All these tasks are included in the duties of parents. Similarly, it is also the duty of children to respect their parents, be their support, hold their parents' arms and enable them to walk in old age and weakness. When children become their parents' shoulders, the parents' heads are raised with pride. All these tasks will happen only when parents train their children well from childhood. But it is also true that sometimes parents pay attention to the training of their children in every way and try to make them better human beings, but some children deviate from the right path and become misguided. The reason for this is that parents are training their children properly, but they do not keep an eye on the society of their children. They do not keep an eye on the friends of their children. Because we have to keep an eye on the society of our children, in which society they get up in the morning and sit down in the evening, with whom they walk. Along with this, what are the qualities and activities of their friends? Similarly, we have to train children to tell them the difference between good and evil, good and bad friends, so that they choose friends who will lead them to success and not those who will push them towards failure even after they are successful. Because good friends will lead them towards goodness and the society of bad friends will lead them towards evil.

When I was eating with my children, my children also made a lot of jokes. My child was picking up the almonds that were on top of the cake and eating them. I told the children that dear children, you should not break the almonds that are decorated on the cake and eat them separately. Rather, whichever piece of cake is given to the person, some almonds will also be given to that person. In this way, if we take these almonds off the top of the cake and eat them separately, then the cake will not be tasty. My children listened to me and said that they will not do that in the future. Just as the almonds on the cake give different tests, similarly we have to train the children that every good deed in the society gives different tests. If they act truthfully in the society, act justly, treat the oppressed with compassion, get a good education, show good character in the society, work for the good of the society, respect their parents, practice their religion in a better way, and worship their God. And if they follow the Sunnah of the last Prophet and Messenger, Hazrat Muhammad Mustafa (peace be upon him) and the path shown, they will become such a fragrant flower that will spread its fragrance in the society, which will make the society fragrant. Similarly, I told the children that the test of each of their deeds will be different, the taste of each of their deeds will be different, and the reward of Allah will be different. If they do bad deeds, the punishment for every bad deed will be different, and the reward for every good deed will be different. So we have to teach the children both religion and the world so that they can succeed in religion and in the world because man has come to this world for a very short time. No one knows how long his life is and how many breaths are left. But I will say this again and again here that always pray for your long life so that when you live a long life, you will also ask for forgiveness for your sins and do good deeds and also educate your children well.

One of them is my nephew and one is my son Ahmed Mustafa. Ahmed Mustafa is the elder and my nephew whose name is Abdul Hanan and very soon he is going to make his own vlog on 3Speak, so I have uploaded their pictures here. Both of them were also involved in the almond cake party. They were in a very, very hurry to distribute the almond cake as soon as possible and to eat whatever cake they had in their share quickly. So they are seen in a hurry and we can feel in their eyes that their biggest desire seems to be to eat this almond cake quickly.

As soon as we divided the cake between the two children, my son and my nephew quickly put the cake in their mouths to test it. You can see how quickly and eagerly they were eating the cake. I took a picture of them while they were eating.

In this picture, my son Ahmed Mustafa Khan is cutting the cake from the beginning, but when he was cutting the cake, he had not removed the plastic tape around the cake, which is used for beauty, so he was having a hard time cutting the cake, so we told him to first remove the silver plastic tape that is attached, then the cake will be cut easily, so he started removing the plastic tape and then he cut the cake.

When my son had two or three pieces of cake, he quickly picked up his share of the cake. When he picked up his share of the cake, my nephew said, "What a big piece of cake he has cut." We then asked him to put down this big piece of cake. In this way, we cut the pizza into equal pieces and divided it. It was a happy and smiling party in which all the children ate the cake with great pleasure. Then, we put their share in the freezer for the children who were not at home at that time. This is how parties with children should be organized so that love is created between children and adults, and a relationship of respect, love, and affection is established and strengthened. In this way, I think that this party with my children was a happy party full of laughter, love, and affection, and we all enjoyed it a lot.

When my son was eating, I also took a photo of him. You can see how quickly he was eating the cake in his mouth. It was a happy moment. It was a beautiful moment, like dancing on top of so many flowers. This party was also similar for us. We joked with the children and enjoyed ourselves a lot. Today, I have saved these beautiful moments in writing and in pictures.

All these children are the beautiful flowers of my house, the beautiful buds of my garden that are blooming, and I hope that when these flowers spread their fragrance in society, the society will be fragrant with their fragrance, and I will be successful on the day when my children pave a path of goodness for other people. Life is the name of goodness. Life is the name of love for humanity. Life is the name of goodness and doing good deeds. Life is the name of struggle and hard work. Life is the name of falling, being defeated, and rising again. Life is the name of every journey that a person takes in his life, and this is the life that will one day take us to our destination. Because if we look back on our lives, we spent some time in our mother's womb, then we came into this world. When we stepped into this world, at that time we could breathe but could not feel. We could not speak. We could not walk. We could not play. Other human beings, our parents, our mothers, made us sit in their laps, protected us from the cold and heat, raised us, and then we grew up and then we became young. We entered our youth, then from our youth we started our quest towards our destination, that we have to do this work, we have to do that work, so in this way every step of our life is going towards a journey and this journey will be successful only when we become old, when we become weak, when we look back on our past life in weakness, if our past life was spent with respect and honor from people, spent in goodness and in good upbringing of children, then we can be proud of ourselves and call ourselves successful people. And if we get the answers to all these things in the negative, then it will be a place to think about how we spent that life that gave us strength, that saw us searching. Thank you very much for reading my article today.