Torn between to work or to be a full-time mom.
There are times that we, mothers, need to weigh things in order to make our family be in it's better situation. And as a 'mom' now, I am having a hard time thinking which of which should I consider to do.
Here's the reason why I need to...
Work
To have a regular work means financial help for the family. If I work, I can help my husband to have extra income which can help for our daily needs and savings. With that, we can give our child his needs without having a headache to where we can we get some of his needs. And I can help my husband pay our debts.
Full-time mom
If I don't work, I'll able to take care of our son 24/7. It's better than having or to get a nanny especially that I don't know people here in this hometown coz I didn't came here originally. I can teach and look for my son's achievements and improvements. I will not be afraid thinking of him everyday when I am at work because I'll be with his side every day and night.
But here's the thing..
If I don't work, I can do full-time mom, which is good for my son. If I don't do full-time mom duty, I need to look for a nanny which is somehow hard to do this time because we need to give salary. And know that being a nanny us not easy so we need to pay her big enough that is equivalent to her job. But, I am thinking what if I found not a good nanny for my son, for sure I will be stressed abd fear for my son.
I am really torn between to find a job or to be a full-time mom. That's why I kept praying to be hired in a near school so that I can go home anytime soon especially during afternoon to look for my son if he's fine.
I don't like to work away from our house like I need to rent a house where I can stay because that only means that I'll be away from my family.
But for now, I am so hopeless if I will be hired in this hometown we're living because I've heard there's no item available. That's why I am thinking if I'll work in the next town to earn. But then, I realized that if I work, my salary will surely be enough for the nanny's salary every month.
Haayy, I really don't know what to do this time. It's like I am drowned with so much in life.
Praying you get hired in a school near me. It's really hard to be away from your kids, iba parin talaga pag nanay ang nag-aalaga. This really is a dilemna for all moms. Sending hugs.
Salamat sis.
Totoo yan, grabe hirap mag decide talaga kaya palagi ko pray na kung pwede dito lang sa malapit at yung regular job na talaga na kahit kukuha ng kasama sa bahay eh sapat pa rin ang sahod tsaka yung mauuwian ko anak ko kada after work
Laban sis. Ibibigay ng universe yan. I-manifest na natin. 🙂
My sisters were hired at naassign sa malayo. Sa albuera to be exact. Pero umuuwi cla everyday. I know mahirap din. Nagtiis cla for 3 yrs na ganun na situation . After that they applied for transfer atvnatransfer na cla dito sa malapit.
If opportunity knocks grab it. Hirap hanapin work these days. Tiis muna. 3 yrs not too long. Pwede na transfer. Ok na rin cguru ung makauwi ka every weekend. Or maybe every other day.
Just my opinion. Hope it will help you decide if mayopportunity.
Yun din inisip ko sis. Kaso, walay item Jhs diri uie. Tapos ang SHS 70 points na d i ang need unlike last year. Mao nahitabo wa kaabot ahu points sa shs, 69.83 lang ahu haha.
Tapos mao to, shs lang daw naay item karon. Saklap.
Pero sige, laban lang. Basin matawagan na sa Deped. Ok ra nahu ug layo basta sa Deped dili contractual kay gamay kaayo sahod igo ra pampasahod ba. Atleast kung Deped, dako so makapasahod pa kung mangita ug kauban sa balay. Pero mas maajo jud unta sie na diri ra sa duol or kaha sa gitrabahoan sa ahung bana ba para makauli. Lisud man gud mangita mubantay bata karon diri uie. Labi na wa koy kaila
Oo if permanent sa deped go dayon sis. Mahan-ay ra lage na nmo...
Mao lage sis. Mao ray ahu gihuwat huwatan. Unta maajo ug gama para di na ko mangita work ba na gamay rag sahod tas adtos layo pa jud.
Keep praying padin tayu te na unta masud nakas deped para mahimutang nakas imo qork, huwat2 sa laman ta karun ma'am hehe God has plan naman ehhh nad He will provide
Mao lage dai. Huhuhu usahay lang jud bug at kaayo kinabuhi na mao na mirag mahugno jud 😅
Mao laban lang, muabot rang time na ma hired
Naa ko sa sitwasyon nga ingun ana karun ma'am. Naa ko city nag work bag ohay lang ko na hired pud mo two weeks pa. Grabe jud kamingaw ug kabalaka para sa akong mga baby pero ang nka swerti kay naa ra akong partner kauban sakung mga bata basta walay work sya ug usa pa naa ra sila sa ilang lolo ug lolan. Guol man huna-hunaon nga maayo unta naa rata sa ilang duol pero need man jud mo pakalayo kay naa kay mga pangandoy para sa pamilya. Laban alng ta ma'am . Ingun ana rjud ne ang life saon gepanganak man tang pobre 💪🙂.
Mao lage ma'am uie. Ang ahu lage is tua man sa layo sila mama nahu. Majaonunta ug sila ahu kabinlan kay di ko mabalaka kay kahibaa ko maatiman pag ayo bisan ug adto kos layo mag work. Huhuhu kapaet jud pero laban lang ta ani. If ma hired gani sad ko, ahu guro ihatud ahu anak adto ila mama kesa sa mukuha ko ug yaya.
Oh, my. Your son sis is so pogi! Mom's job is really tough and it is 24/7. I salute moms like you, sis! I am not a mom yet but somehow I understand how hard to be a mom since I can see it in real life and in movies.
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Have you thought of online jobs where you can stay at home?
I hope you get it sorted soonest.
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Lisura jud walay trabaho dae no pero sige lang ampo lang jud maka trabaho ra pohon.
I feel you. I hired a nanny before when I was still working in the corporate world. It always break my heart to see my daughter cry whenever I leave for work.
I was lucky enough to find online jobs when I left my regular job. I accepted 3 jobs that time. We somehow managed just until we had enough savings and my husband got promoted. Now, I am a full time mom, homeschooling my daughter.
Tiis lang mamsh. At tiyaga maghanap ng online jobs, mahirap sa una but once makakuha ka ng isa o dalawa, it's like the floodgates will open, marami na agad kasunod.
Hala momshhh, anong online jobs yan baka ma keri ko huhuhu para in case ba makaya no need na mag work ng malayo
I'm in your situation too sis @zbabe after I gave birth. I have that question which is to continue to work or resign and take care of my son. My boss don't want me to resign because a regular position can be offered to me soon. But I have to choose and I chose my son over work. Here I am right now, a full time mom and a house wife and I never regret my decision. I am just trying hard to do side hustle to help my husband in our financial needs in my own simple way.
Same tayo sis. Ako man di nagsisi na mas inuna ko anak ko now kesa sa work. Sana makakita ng medyo sakto2 ang kita kahit nasa bahay lang
Dami ko na nga natry sis. Online selling, blogging, cooking and selling some kakanin tapos stop na naman depende ano kaya gawin in a specific time hehehe
Murag mao jud nay main struggle sa mga nanay maamsh no. Basin ganahan ka mag online teaching sa