Friendship! Effort! Love!
I do tell people that I am not the type that builds friendships in a day or two.
Not everyone is called my friend, I am very careful and selective about the people I call my friends.
For me, friendship is more than just the name, it takes a great deal to build genuine friendship.
I am pretty selective in making friends, it is not pride, it is just me being careful of the people I trust in my life and space.
I am being careful about the kind of association I keep, because after all the things we allow into our space influence our lives.
In building friendships, sacrifices are made, and I am all out for intentional efforts.
I like it when people make an effort to make something work out, people who don't give up very easily.
I can be pretty annoying and frustrating, it's not that I am proud of it but I do frustrate people that tend to profess love or seek friendship with me because like I said, I am pretty picky.
I don't just jump into every train of friendship and I certainly do not give in easily to love confession and profession.
Friendship means a lot to me after family
and so I don't take it for granted or make the slightest mistake.
Yes it is said that we meet people for a reason and by that I am careful not to make the mistake of making the wrong choice of friends and because of this, I am a little strict with people that randomly walk into my life and want an automatic friendship with me.
No way! It doesn't work that way for me, I should see the effort you are making and know your reasons for choosing or wanting to be friends with me.
I need some kind of clarity because I would do the same for anyone I want to intentionally make friends with.
I could like someone's personality, sense of judgment, character, or behavior and then I want to keep them close.
I could admire something about someone or want to learn a thing or two from them and so I seek friendship with them.
I don't just randomly jump into people's life, so as not to make a mess or disturb their peace and space.
Love? One very peculiar word I don't joke with.
Love was meant to be real, genuine, and true, but along the line, we lost it to pretense, lies, lust, infatuation, manipulation, and deceit.
Love should be mild, tender, kind, and caring. It shouldn't be abused or misused.
I can't tell one what they love to hear or express what I don't feel or have for them.
It's very difficult so I don't know how people go about pretending and deceiving people simply because they have something they want to get from a person.
Love is one thing I can't fake, I don't know how to pretend to like or love something or someone I don't.
And in the same way, I can't be easily fooled when it comes to love, I see it, I can feel it, it's written all over one's expression, it is in their actions and all there is about love.
When we put agape love aside and talk about romantic love, again I am quite picky.
I am not easily enticed by what I see or hear, and again efforts and sacrifices come to play if one wants to win my love or heart.
Consistency in action and making an effort is my watchword.
I like it when people are intentional about going after what they want and they make consistent efforts until they have that thing and even after getting what they want, they still make effort and sacrifices to keep that thing just as when they were trying to get that thing.
And if after all of this, the love can't be reciprocated, then I usually feel very sorry for the person and if it's in my case, I wouldn't try faking, lying ot pretending just because I pity the person.
There should be no pity in love, for romantic love, both parties should feel the same way for each other.
Yes, the feeling should be mutual, it should be reciprocated and not one-sided.
With love, comes a lot of work and sacrifices and some could start with a simple act of friendship.
I would love to end my speech here by saying this;
If you love something or someone and you want to have a thing or two to do with them, then intentional effort and consistency should be your watchword.
Go all out for what you want, desire, and admire, you can never tell how far your consistent efforts can change or shift principles, boundaries, and situations for you.
Make and show that intentional effort and you won't regret you tried.
Have a wonderful week y'all!
𝐀𝐮𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐫
~ 𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐖𝐚𝐤𝐲! 𝐀 𝐦𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐢-𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐨𝐩𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐠 𝐠𝐢𝐫𝐥 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐢𝐬 𝐳𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐞𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫 𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐰 𝐚𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐫. 𝐀 𝐠𝐢𝐫𝐥 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐭𝐡 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐨𝐝𝐝𝐬.
𝐈 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞 𝐦𝐲 𝐞𝐱𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐞𝐥𝐲 𝐛𝐲 𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐨 𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐚 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐝𝐮𝐜𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐞, 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐥𝐲 𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐲 𝐛𝐢𝐫𝐭𝐡 𝐧𝐚𝐦𝐞 "𝐀𝐛𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐆𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐞".
𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐚𝐬𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐦𝐲 𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐪𝐮𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐢𝐧 𝐚 𝐝𝐲𝐧𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐜 𝐰𝐚𝐲
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4 June 2023
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