Let's Take Turns

We (and by WE I mean society) are so used to people walking into our lives and then walking right out after what.
Why do we always choose this play? Why can't it be the other way round? Why do you always have to give people the privilege of coming into your life and leaving at their will and how it pleases them? Come on, you aren't some piece of trash that needs recycling or to be discarded.
Have some dignity and don't let it be washed or flushed down the drain.
You can't always act like you are being too nice cause the truth is that you will end up being played every freaking time.
I watch people and mostly people around me allow themselves to be used and tortured simply because of the things they tolerated and without a single thought, I have always shaken my head and be like; I can't be like that, I can never tolerate or allow this

It's sad how some people just allow others to walk on them or over them. How they allow their integrity and dignity to be tempered with. I see them smile or keep silent over something they should probably be angry or sad about and perhaps speak up. And sometimes I am like what a dummy!. Well, don't get me wrong because even the scriptures have made it very clear that there is a time for everything.
There is a time to keep silent and a time to speak up but it is in our place to know and decide when to speak up and when not to, when to keep silent and when not to. We can't always be silent all the time and we can't also speak all the time.

You Walk In? I Walk Out!

Sorry to say but I do not hesitate to walk out on people and I am not even sorry about that. Inasmuch as our vision, our goals, and our purposes don't align, I won't hesitate walking out on you.
I do not really care how much you can offer or how much of a thing you can do for me. I am not as selfish and self-centered to blindly let you stay when you aren't adding any value to my life.

I've been in a position of making difficult decisions so many times and though some got really difficult but then again, I had to decide either way.
I couldn't just sit around and watch things fall apart all because I wanted temporary happiness or pleasure. No! I just can't risk my future for anything temporary.

Walking out on people, walking out of a place, and walking out of a gathering or association doesn't make you evil, impolite, or inconsiderate. It only means you respect each other goals, and purpose and you are sticking to what makes everyone else valuable.
I would share a quick and shallow story and an experience I had about walking out on people because our purpose and goals weren't aligned.

Hello miss! How are you doing and what's your name?
I responded politely and respectfully. And at the end of the program, my contact was being asked for. I wondered why it was so, I mean after now we weren't gonna see each other again so what was the need to exchange numbers? But then again, so as not to appear a bit too difficult, I gave out my contact, and boom the whole drama began.
I was texted, called, and chatted with, almost every single day of my life. At first, it was cool but along the line, I felt bothered and disturbed.

We became close and good friends if I am allowed to use the word friends. She was quite older than me and to this effect, she needed something from me that I didn't know why.
She wanted to act like a guardian in my life and I, on the other hand really didn't like anyone bothering my life and all.
She pleaded for a chance, I asked to get to know her first, and perhaps after a month or so I will know what to decide.
In the long run, I accept this guardianship role she wanted to play in my life, and yes she did it a bit too well but mostly the financial aspect.

Initially, it felt good having someone oversee and take care of most of your needs and bills but gradually I discovered our purpose and goal didn't align, so I had to back off.
It took me a lot of courage to address the matter and let her know I wasn't comfortable with whatever relationship we had anymore. So I told her I was not gonna continue letting her play that role anymore, that I was walking out of it, technically, that we were over and by that, I meant whatever role she was playing in my life was over and she should stop acting like my guardian already.
I did look like the bad girl for being so cruel I guess, some people started giving me that wicked and hardened girl looks including the person in question but it was okay by me so far I saved my butt from a lot of future damages, I didn't care about what others think of me or how they saw me so far I wasn't doing anything inhumane, it was all okay.

Walking out on people at times, on the wrong relationship, friendship, association, etc can save you from future damages. It may feel wrong at first and you may feel sad too but with time you will realize how great a choice you made.
Life shouldn't be too difficult if walking out on things took their turns and not always one-sided.
Don't give things or people constant chances of walking out on you and ruining your life every time, sometimes sum up the courage and walk out on things that might cause your ruin sooner or later.
Life happens! But life shouldn't always meet you at the same spot, take your turns on life too.
Am I making any sense? 😄
Do have a great day ahead of you!

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               17 May 2022
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                 Tuesday