Your Love? Your Marriage? Or Your Work?

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I had a keen discussion with someone a few days ago and in the middle of our discussion, we talked about finance, love life, relationship, and even marriage.
One thing led to the other that he mentioned a fellow worker who wasn't willing to let go of her work to please a man who asked for her hand in marriage.
According to the story, the man in question asked his girlfriend to quit her job because he didn't like where she was working and so because of that she should quit. But because the lady also in question couldn't risk it, she rather choose to let go of her love and not marry the man because she refused to quit her job which according to her was paying her well and to be frank wasn't sure she could ever get or find another like it.
Yeah, they weren't married just yet according to the story but were about to or planning to, only for the lady to choose her work over the man she loved and the marriage they had planned to have or would have had.




What Would Have Been Your Choice?

Now in such cases, if you were the lady and you were in her shoes, what would have been your decision? What would you have rather done? And what would have been your reasons?
Assuming the place you are working pays you well and you have some benefits and favor and then someone (your man) suddenly wakes up one day and ask you to stop working there perhaps with his reasons but I wouldn't be the one to mention (it could be any reason).
So what would have been your considerations and choice?
Or do you think the lady in question did wrong for choosing her work and her salary over her love and their marriage if you think she was wrong, then please can you state or give your reasons for that answer too? Does one have to risk it all for love or marriage? Considering how difficult things are at the moment and how everyone seems to be struggling to make ends meet? Does such love really deserve to be?



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I become a little lost and confused when it comes to matters similar to this. I mean it's not so easy to give up one's love or marriage because of money and its not also easy to give up a well-paying job for marriage in a country that is as difficult as ours, so in a way, I tend to understand why the lady did what she did.
So let's say you were the one, what would you have done on your part?
Would it be your love? Your marriage or your work? I would love to have your opinion on this, thank you!



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             28 September 2022
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Money is vanity, love is life and that relationship clearly lacked it from both ends.

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😂💔 Perhaps! Who knows?
Thanks for your honest opinion

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The thing is people place too much importance in material possessions that things that should actually matter now seems minor.

Making money is cool, but if you can't sacrifice that for happiness then it's either you didn't find it yet, or you did but not with the right person, which are valid reasons to not give in.

But anything asides this is just humans feeling money or material things will bring them everlasting happiness, I can name a lot of rich people who ain't happy with all the wealth they have.

So if a woman is turning down a supposed love life headed to marriage for money, someone better whoop her ass cause she be straying for real.

I mean if the man got something doing, you know, and clearly wants the best for her then that job shouldn't come between them.

Men always want their lady to be in a safe environment not populated by people they suspect are harmful in anyway, women just don't get this because everybody now just wanna be the next big thing - vanity.

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Making money is cool, but if you can't sacrifice that for happiness then it's either you didn't find it yet, or you did but not with the right person, which are valid reasons to not give in.

Yeah, I mean everyone wants to make money but then if one doesn't prioritize his or her happiness, risking it all for material things, then I don't know what they are pursuing in the real sense.

But anything asides this is just humans feeling money or material things will bring them everlasting happiness, I can name a lot of rich people who ain't happy with all the wealth they have.

Lol, funny truth, they are actually a lot of wealthy sad soul in the world😥

So if a woman is turning down a supposed love life headed to marriage for money, someone better whoop her ass cause she be straying for real.

I believe she needs the whooping🤪😂 but I am just thinking if she had her reasons, perhaps a better one other than just keeping her job🤔

Men always want their lady to be in a safe environment not populated by people they suspect are harmful in anyway, women just don't get this because everybody now just wanna be the next big thing - vanity.

My dear! That is the world we live in. Vanity upon vanity though😂

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If this is courtship, I go for my job.
Courtship is a 50/50...
The man should try and understand that uncertainties happen.

Now on the marriage aspect, it is a difficult situation because you want your marriage to be at peace. But it is best they'll be a mutual understanding.
If he ask me to quit, let it be that what will replace it will be from him and I must earn better than the previous one and be less busy.

However, if he says this so that I have more attention for the family... Mmmmmm 🤷
I'll love to have a job less busy than the former. At least I must work. C'mon! I need to bring something on the table too...

This is my opinion 🙏

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If this is courtship, I go for my job.
Courtship is a 50/50...
The man should try and understand that uncertainties happen.

Lol, actually it is courtship and its funny how this paragraph is very similar to a friend's opinion too. She was like, C'mon make the man go (with her reasons too) saying its a 50/50 chance, so what happens to her if the guy later end up not marrying her?💔😂 and she looses both the man and her well paying job😂

Now on the marriage aspect, it is a difficult situation because you want your marriage to be at peace. But it is best they'll be a mutual understanding.
If he ask me to quit, let it be that what will replace it will be from him and I must earn better than the previous one and be less busy.

It wasn't really marriage but courtship. However, I understand what you said here and I appreciate your honest opinion

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-Hi Ma'am Wacky, how are you? He..he. well If will face this kind of situation, maybe, of course, I will choose my loved one, but it depends on how the relationship is running..sometimes others choose their careers because of their problems with their partners, there's a reason for everything. 😌Have a blessed evening✨

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Yeah, everyone has their reasons and their priorities so of course, some partners do have their reasons for every action or decision.

You have made a nice choice depending on your reason dear. Thank you for your opinion and for stopping by!

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That's a good question, however in the 21st century this should not be a problem. No one has the right to make you choose, it should be your decision and the partner, if he loves you, should accept it. Forcing someone to do what you want is not love. However, some countries/cultures may still be a problem.

I'd like to suggest Ladies of Hive for this type of topics in the future, a community you already know I see. OCD is for topics that don't fit in any other community and should be used when you don't find a niche community for your post.

Here's a guide I put together to help you learn about how communities work and why you should use them -> Communities Explained - Newbie Guide. I also put together a list of communities, which is not complete, there are much more communities on Hive, but it will help you get started.

Once you posted your post in the right community, you can then cross post it to OCD community. Here's a guide about cross posting.

Please don't delete any post with the purpose of reposting it in another community as that can be considered abuse! Leave this post here, you'll get it right next time.

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That's a good question, however in the 21st century this should not be a problem. No one has the right to make you choose, it should be your decision and the partner, if he loves you, should accept it. Forcing someone to do what you want is not love. However, some countries/cultures may still be a problem.

I never thought of this, and I truly appreciate your opinion. No one has the right to make us choose except it's our decision to weigh our choices and pick from them. Forcing something on people is not always the best thing to do but sadly, like you said, some countries and cultures still encourages this and its mostly happens among the folks here.

I'd like to suggest Ladies of Hive for this type of topics in the future, a community you already know I see. OCD is for topics that don't fit in any other community and should be used when you don't find a niche community for your post.

Thank you for the community recommendation. Yeah, I am a member of Ladies of Hive community but I believe the community is gender-biased. Mostly articles that centers on the affair of just ladies I guess? Not sure how much is accepted them and I wouldn't wanna break some rules.

Thank you all the same, I appreciate.

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Yeah, I am a member of Ladies of Hive community but I believe the community is gender-biased. Mostly articles that centers on the affair of just ladies I guess? Not sure how much is accepted them and I wouldn't wanna break some rules.

Half of your post is about what a lady or a woman should do in this situation, which makes it perfect for the community. This is obviously my opinion, as a woman and I'm not part of the community, nor am I admin or moderator there. On the other hand, I have the confirmation that men can post there too, if the topic is about ladies/women.

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Oh, that's great then!
I will be sure to check in with them next time when my article is a little about ladies ;)
Thanks again!

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In my opinion, I feel her decision was right. Aside from money, there is the issue of human interaction. Being a house wife take a lot of energy and devotion. It probably took years for her to build her career and so, she wouldn't want to give everything up.

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