How are you? LOH#86
Once in a while, I check Ladies of Hive community for the new topics. A few times, I decided to write a post and started to write but did not submit after all.
Today I'm determined to tell you my story.
Here we are, Nataly, me and Nick, ages ago...
How are you?
As you probably know, I'm from Ukraine. Our lives were turned upside down on February 24th. The war separated us from our children, our parents, our loved ones. Some families will never rejoin again. New circumstances have helped me understand who my true friends are. These are the people who wrote to me every day: "How are you?" These three words meant so much! "I pray for you", "I love you", "I care for you", "I keep you in my thoughts"... I also wrote to my loved once. To my daughter and mom, but most of all I worried about my husband Nick.
The question is "Who is the first person you would call when you are in trouble?", and I have to choose.
Indeed, I often ask myself - do I have the person, or - can I decide who is the person, who is my "MOST". Is is right or fair to have it, or you have to equally love all yours, you know, children, parents, partner.
Whom I love the most, or miss the most when I'm alone, and with whom I first want to share my happiness or my despair? This is a difficult choice indeed, and it may be a good sign meaning that probably there is more than one such person. Haha, I'm lucky. Although, if we abstract, we have different "MOST person" in different periods of life.
Let me digress here.
When I was young and impressionable, I studied the Bible. It was an exciting period.😊 And I remember being struck and surprised by the words of Genesis 2:24: "That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." For me then, father and mother were the most important and sacred people in life, and it seemed to me that this should never change. That is what is right. Even considering my overbearing mother.😏 On the other hand, this is THE BIBLE! Can it be wrong? How is it possible that a spouse is more important than parents, and therefore more important than children? And then came the time when I so much wanted to change my life so as not to live with my parents...
My daughter is my world. Her father died when she was 8, and I became her world as well. There were times, when I kept on living only because of her. We kind of have been through a lot. Can anyone be more important?
Well, it's only my part of the story. Nataly has a boyfriend, and they are together for ages now. 😄 All of a sudden, I realized that she'd like better to spend time with him than with me. Hang on, watch movies, chat, spend vacations. It was sad and painful when I first realized that someone really important had appeared in her life, someone other than me. History repeats itself in a new circle.
So, who's left? Looks like it's Nick, my husband. And not because he's the one who's left or The Bible told me so. We're grown up girls and know about divorce. I don't know when it has happened. He is my person. After everything we've been through, I trust him completely, although it wasn't easy for me to start trusting. He is my friend, my most valued confidant.
I know the life is beautiful, but the war is cruel. If I lose him, I know my life will stop that day. But this will not happen, because we will live happily ever after and died on the same day. As it should be in the end of a good story.