How do I take care of my relationships?

Hello, dear hiver!❤️

To love is to be responsible.

I believe and feel that when we talk about love it refers to a feeling of a deep desire to love and care for the other person.

However, another way to love is not only what we are used to hearing so much these days "self-love", but by being willing, as well as prepared to be with another person. Because, the reality is that not all of us are prepared to love.

What I just said is a little disconcerting, I know. However, when a person is not well, he cannot offer a relationship. I have come across toxic men, narcissists, and some with somewhat peculiar ideas. My conclusion about this is that they are people who need to work a lot on themselves.

Mature, fight against those problems that are inside you, work on loving yourself, taking care of yourself.

_{Responsibility is an act of love that is little talked about. (Own photography)}

They didn't offer me what I needed, wanted, or what is expected in a relationship. Which results in the person next to you ceasing to be your partner, to a person who does not provide positive contributions to your life.

They are not well, so they transmit their insecurities, infecting their partner with this consuming phenomenon.

So, in short, I take care of my relationships, being responsible.

For a while, I decided not to have a partner. Proposals, beautiful bodies, or endless opportunities have not mattered. I had things to work on, one of them being my self-esteem. I made it. Another, temperament. I am in the process of this.

I also thought that it would be nice to finish my studies. I have a university degree from TSU (Técnico Superior Universitario), so the Bachelor's Degree sounded like an extremely interesting idea in my mind. In addition to being from a different branch, it is a challenge to face.

However, this has not been enough for me. There are other personal goals to meet such as my financial stability. I don't like having a partner and not being able to give them gifts, or support them financially. I like to be like the Yin Ying. I feel that this way relationships are more harmonious.

This is my way of seeing it. But, couple decisions are made together, and personal decisions are individual. You can decide what you want, this is just a personal opinion that I share with you.

For me, feeling fulfilled is having my university degree and other goals. I am responsible for it, for my life. I want to feel fully satisfied to be able to transmit that satisfaction.

I feel that I am responsible for myself, I learn to do better more and more, which will help me be responsible for other people in my life, such as a partner and children.

He took care of my relationships when I work on myself to provide the best to others, when I feel good about myself and transmit it to another person, when I understand that loving is a responsibility that I must take seriously.

And in this last point I want to point out something important, and that is the current relationships.

Modernity is consuming us. Leaving people without first speaking, being with thousands of people, playing with others, with their time and emotions.

We hear a lot of advice on the web, most of it bad. Has leaving values aside become romanticized? Yes, that's what I observe. But, there is still good content on the web that helps us maintain healthy relationships, there are still people who are a good example, people who give us a little light on all of this every day.

There are many gurus online, but not all of them have the answer on how to love. Not even me! I'm just a girl who expresses her ideas on her blog. I may be wrong about some, maybe I'm too demanding of myself. But, it's my lifestyle, my way of seeing things.

He criticized himself! Think about what is best for you, don't let someone else give their opinion, or let someone else make decisions for you. Go to your room and think about whether you are doing the right thing, enough for you. Go and think about how you take care of your relationships.

Surely many ideas will come to you, so I invite you to share them on Hive. It will be beautiful to read you.

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Initiative How do you take care of your relationships? of @rosahidalgo

13/04/24

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_{Hello, I'm Zul! I am an administrator, and I am dedicated to independent work, I also create online content. I love photography, writing, visiting places, nature, and making some thoughtful posts. In advance, thanks for reading.❤️❤️}