The perfect date inspired by the 9ja show on hivenaija.

In Nigeria, we do not use the term "date". It sounds too fancy, or perhaps we interpret it to mean something else. When you say someone is your date in Nigeria, people understand it to mean your escort to an event or someone you are romantically involved with. It's unusual for a Nigerian guy to ask you out on a date. "Hang-out" is the most common term. That's the terminology we used to describe dates, but let's be fancy and use the word "date" for this post.

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What is a date?

A date is simply a planned get-together with someone you find attractive in the hopes of developing a romantic relationship. A date is simply an opportunity to connect with someone and learn more about them.

Depending on what you plan and who is involved, a date can be simple or elegant. Some ladies are classy yet simple and would appreciate a simple date. Trying to impress such a lady by taking her to the most exquisite place may not be enough. You might be surprised to learn that a trip to a shawarma joint and a hearty conversation may just be what will have her tripping for you. Sometimes, all you need to get out of her is a good laugh, and your job is done.

There is nothing like a perfect date. When it comes to dating, the adage "it takes two to tango", is true. The most experienced person can have the worst date. The date concept might be perfect, but the actual date may not be. A perfect date requires two people who have a connection, are great conversationalists, and know the right topic to talk about at the right time. Nothing kills a date faster than a partner who is uninterested in what you'd like to discuss.

Planning for a date.

Every Nigerian girl has a picture of how she would love to be asked on a date. Unfortunately, there aren't many romantic Nigerian guys. Most Nigerian guys do not bother to ask you why you would like or where you'd like to go before asking you out. This is why some ladies end up being either overdressed or underdressed when they go on a date.

Allow me to take this opportunity to remind Nigerian guys that inviting a girl you just met to your place is inappropriate. Even when done with the right intentions, it sends off all the wrong signals.

Great date ideas for less of your pocket.

There are lots of date ideas that will not break the bank.

A car date

This may sound very simple and not fancy, but it is one of the best ways to bond. You aren't just exploring your date, but the town together. While driving, you have time to get to know each other better, listen to some cool music, and even sing along together. You can go to a quiet, secluded location, turn on your radio, open the door, and dance. You can also drive to a scenic location and enjoy the scenery. Sit on the hood of the car and gaze at the stars. You'd have a wonderful evening at the end of it all.

A movie date

Movies are excellent choices for a date because they provide you with something to talk about throughout the date, as long as you both see a movie you enjoy. It is simply entertainment, and it allows for plenty of flirting if you are looking to establish a sexual connection. 😜. Remember that physical contact must be mutual. Keep your hands to yourself if your partner isn't interested. Get there on time and get to know each other better before the movie starts. If it all ends well, you can stay after the movies and talk some more.

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A beach date

For lovers of nature, a beach is a beautiful place for a date. It is fun and relaxing. The feeling of sand in your toes and the sound of the waves are very relaxing. People are most likely to be relaxed and fully present at the beach, allowing connection on a deeper level. There are numerous activities available at the beach. You could go horseback riding. You can dance with your date. You can go on a romantic beach walk or even pick oyster shells together.

Invite her to a party.

If you are on a tight budget but really need to spend time with her and talk over food, you're in luck if one of your friends is throwing a party. Invite her to the party as your date. You'd have plenty of time to talk and get to know each other better while the party is on. The good thing is that food and drink are on the house.

A lunch date

A lunch date is ideal for workaholics whose only free time is during lunch. If her workplace is close to yours, you can pay her a visit and buy lunch for her at the office cafeteria. The one-hour lunch break would be an excellent opportunity to get to know her a little better, and if she isn't a very difficult person to impress, she would appreciate it.

Is there a perfect approach to asking a lady out on a date?

Confidence! That's the key. A confident man is a sexy man. Don't blow your chances by overthinking it. She may have been expecting you to do so for a long time; you may never know. If you are going to ask her in person or over a phone call, ensure that you do not go straight to the point. Talk to her for a few minutes to get her relaxed. Ensure you have it all figured out so you will have answers for her questions.

Dressing for a date

What to wear is determined by the location and type of date. However, your comfort must always come first. Wear whatever makes you feel at ease, and make sure you are not overdressed or underdressed for the occasion.

This post is inspired by the 9ja show of Hivenaija coming up tonight at 8 p.m. UTC+1.