Communication: A Necessity For Every Relationship

While having a relationship discussion with a friend a few days ago, I talked about how communication plays a big role in making relationships work. Be it family relationships, friendships, acquaintanceships, or romantic relationships communication is very much necessary.

I expressed my displeasure in how people tend to bottle in feelings of hurt, pain and the likes. Someone uttered something you didn't like - talk to them. You don't want to do something you're asked to do - say something! Someone picked your property without permission and it bothered you - tell it to the person, whatever it is just communicate.

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We narrowed down our discussion to romantic relationships. We talked about little issues that skyrocketed into serious problems in relationships just because of the inability for partners to communicate properly.
I didn't know how to deny the fact that I have been there too. Each of us have probably been there too. I've felt burdened about something and couldn't talk to my partner about it so I shared it with my friend.

What Really Happened?

My relationship was just beginning to blossom with this guy. We were trying to see if things could work out. He had travelled on that particular day and I called later to find out if he had arrived safely. He was sleeping at the time I called and he confirmed he had arrived safely. Since I interrupted his sleep, I decided to leave him to continue resting and he promised to call later.

As a girl, society or the universe has set the standard that the guy must do the chasing. As we weren't officially an item just yet, I was careful not to do too much. I waited patiently for his call later that day and it didn't come
The next day passed and still there wasn't any call. It was at the end of the next day that he chatted me up and I put up an attitude of giving him monosyllabic responses.

Two days later he chatted me up again and my attitude remained the same. He finally had to call. While on the call I maintained the same attitude and he finally spoke up. After enquiring about what's going on, saying I've been acting cold, we haven't even spoken since he got back...I finally decided to let the cat out of the bag.

I opened up about him not returning my call as he said and not even reaching out till 2 days after. He was so confused and said he doesn't remember me calling him nor him telling me he'll return my call. He also said I could have simply let him know about what the issue was. Since the call came in between his sleep, he honestly didn't remember it. He apologised and that was the end of it.

I had to admit that was silly of me but I had my reasons for doing that. In my case I didn't want it to be like I was seeking too much attention nor did I want it to seem like I was too much of a disturbance but still I could have said something rather than put up those attitudes.

For Others, What Really Could Have Been Their Reason?

We further discussed what could be the reason why communication is difficult in other people's relationship. My friend stated that sometimes a partner may not want to seem jealous or controlling so they rather just keep their opinions or whatever they wished to have communicated to themselves. For others it's a matter of fear. Maybe they are always intimidated by their partner's reaction because most conversations end in a heated argument.

Whatever The Case May Be...

Everything should always be peacefully communicated. You're going to be late for a scheduled appointment - communicate! You need a break - communicate! Anything worth talking about should be communicated – expectations, disappointments, everything.

A lack of communication leaves room for too much imagination and assumptions and in most cases these assumptions are usually not positive ones.

Tuesday, May 10th, 2022.