Forgiveness - There's More To Forgiving

It's not easy to forgive!
I can't forgive you!
It's hard to forget what you did to me!
I don't think I can ever forgive you!

We hear people say these words, some in tears while some with some kind of conviction. Firstly, I'll say no human has the power to say another human is unforgivable except the Almighty says so and of course we don't know the heart of the Almighty. So with that in mind, I'll say every one of us deserves to be forgiven if we ask for forgiveness.

It's not easy to forgive someone who hurt us especially when the hurt comes from someone very dear but we've got to forgive because there's more to forgiving.

Forgiving Is Not A Weakness

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Saying "I can't forgive you" shows that you're telling the person "I'm a weak person" no matter how strong you may have been. Yeah, forgiving someone who has hurt you shows how strong and brave you are or becoming. If you've forgiven someone before, you would get to understand how it's a strength and not a bit of weakness at all.

At the time of forgiving someone, people may see you like a weak person but guess what! They are the weak ones because you are doing what they think they would never do - Forgiving some kind of hurt, not everybody gets to that stage and forgives.

I totally agree with the view that one can forgive but should never forget, it's called being wise. Only a naive person would forgive and forget, is it possible to forgive? I guess it is. The truth is, we've got to accept the world we live in. People may ask for forgiveness and not truly repent, forgiving them and forgetting what they did to you isn't being wise at all. You would never know what would hit you on the long run.

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A woman got married to a gentle man who seems caring and loving but it all changed when he gave her a slap over a little argument. She got a sign of violence in marriage at that point but she forgave the man because he pleaded on his knees. They got back to being all loving and happy but it didn't last long before he gave the woman a heavy beating for not preparing dinner early. She cried so hard but forgave the man after pleading. At this time, he promised never to hit her again. She decided to forget their past and move on. A few months later, the man beat the woman to death out of anger and was sentenced to life imprisonment.

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You could imagine the turn out of things because she decided to be so naive about her situation. You can always forgive but never forget what happened and find ways to avoid such situations even if it means taking a big step. The woman would have been alive and healthy if she had forgiven the man and avoided the situation but she didn't.

Asking For Forgiveness Is Not Foolishness

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Another aspect of forgiveness is asking for it. Many find it hard to ask for forgiveness when they know they did something wrong or hurt someone. Some would say to ask for forgiveness is lack of pride and others would say it's foolishness but believe it when I say it's a wise thing to do.

Asking for forgiveness shows humility, an attribute of a wise person. In fact, feigning innocent in something you know you did wrong is foolishness. Not facing your mistakes and wrongs is foolishness. Accepting punishment for what you did wrong is a wise decision to changing you.

I've heard someone say "I've never said the word Sorry before" is that something to boast of? It is almost impossible to not have wronged anyone in one's life, why act unconscious about such and neglect asking for forgiveness? The less enemies, more progress - Saying sorry whenever wrong reduces the amount of enemies you have, it's funny but true.

So what I'm saying in essence is that:

  • Forgive, it's not weakness
  • Forgive, don't forget
  • Ask for forgiveness, it's not foolishness

Thanks for reading!!!

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Truth be told, I enjoyed every bit of this piece... Forgiveness is one thing that is difficult for we humans to display despite knowing that our creator even with how big our sins are, forgave us.... As you rightly said, asking for forgiveness shouldn't be seen as weakness, it actually shows how humble a person is....

I hope everyone reading this post understands truly what forgiveness is all about....

Thanks for sharing

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I'm glad you got the message and even gave a beautiful comment on it, thanks for stopping by

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I really enjoyed reading this.

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Everyone deserves forgiveness when they ask for it, but like you said sometimes it's not easy to forgive especially when they hurt us deeply.

One thing I know about forgiveness is most time you don't do it for them, you do it for yourself because holding on to whatever it is that person did will most often than not, rob you of your complete happiness.

Personally, I forgive whether they ask or not but I never forget😂 I like to save myself the trouble of being in that same situation in the nearest future.


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Exactly my dear, forgive but never forget... Reminding yourself of what happens will help you avoid it just in case the person never repented.

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Exactly! Because people can say they have change when in fact they are still the same and will not hesitate to hurt you and also it may not be them but that situation may arise with someone else and you'll use what happened with them as a lesson.


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True, you said it well. We never know who would offend us so we learn from what has happened to control what is about to happen.

I appreciate your visit to my post, still your biggest fan 😃

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It's safe to say you're the best fan anyone could ask for❤️❤️ thank you so much!


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Coincidentally, I wrote an article on forgiveness, I'm yet to post it. I should do before I sleep.

Of course God forgives. It's evidence. Despite the wrong doings on earth, we still see nice things and beautiful people like @merit.ahama. Is God not wonderful?😃

Forgiveness doesn't mean not taking precaution, it just means clearing your mind of all ill thoughts you might have towards the one that hurt you.

When it's time to move on, we have to, even when we have forgiven.

I have forgiven you friend. Lol. Don't ask what you did ooo?

Nice piece. @dreemport brought me here.

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we still see nice things and beautiful people like @merit.ahama. Is God not wonderful?

Awwwwnn I'm blushing ooo
God is indeed wonderful 😊

I have forgiven you friend. Lol. Don't ask what you did ooo?

You know I will still ask, what did I do na? I'm a very peaceful and quiet girl, I don't find trouble 😌 so are you sure that forgiveness is for me? 😂

Thanks for stopping by @mmykel

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I'm a very peaceful and quiet girl, I don't find trouble 😌

🙄🙄🙄🙄
Wait did you actually believe this?
I'm trying so hard to believe you. 😂😂

You're welcome peaceful and quiet girl @merit.ahama

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😂 Just try to believe ehn, it's very good to believe sometimes 🤪

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