ENG/ESP: Adulting & Independence: When Is The Right Time To Move Out Of Your Parents' House? // ¿Cuándo Es El Momento Adecuado Para Mudarse De La Casa De Sus Padres?
Hey everyone!
Firstly, I'd like to thank you for stopping by to watch me run my mouth as usual😁.
I just had a small talk on the subject matter because I've come to realize that a lot of us subject ourselves to the most uncomfortable situations because of the inability to shun peer pressure in all forms.
As a child, I so looked forward to being an adult. As an adult, I want to be babied.
When is the right time to move out of your /guardian's house?
As I stated in the video, the right time to move out is when you are READY. Ready as in stable; I'm talking financial stability, emotional stability, and the likes.
This video was inspired my friend who was unable to relocate to Lagos because her family wouldn't budge. As expected, she was quite upset and ranted ceaselessly about how she was moving out of her uncle's house because she was tired of being bossed around. The problem is that she doesn't have the financial capacity to support herself__her rent, feeding, transportation, and the like. Also, she has never lived on her own, and it just seems unwise for her to leave in such a manner.
Do I feel some type of a way about her uncle preventing a twenty-something-year-old from trying to make a living on her own? The answer is YES, I do.
Please, tell me, what are your thoughts?
Español
Adultez e independencia: ¿Cuándo es el momento adecuado para mudarte de la casa de tus padres?
¡Hola a todos!
En primer lugar, me gustaría daros las gracias por pasaros por aquí para ver cómo se me va la olla como siempre😁.
Me ha dado por hablar del tema porque me he dado cuenta de que muchos de nosotros nos sometemos a las situaciones más incómodas debido a la incapacidad de evitar la presión de los compañeros en todas sus formas.
Cuando era niño, esperaba con ansia ser adulto. De adulto, quiero que me cuiden.
¿Cuándo es el momento adecuado para irse de la casa de tus padres/tutores?
Como dije en el vídeo, el momento adecuado para mudarse es cuando uno está listo. Listo como en la estabilidad; estoy hablando de la estabilidad financiera, la estabilidad emocional y similares.
Este vídeo se inspiró en mi amiga, que no pudo mudarse a Lagos porque su familia no quiso hacerlo. Como era de esperar, se enfadó bastante y despotricó sin cesar sobre cómo se iba a mudar de la casa de sus tíos porque estaba cansada de que la mandaran. El problema es que no tiene capacidad económica para mantenerse a sí misma -su alquiler, alimentación, transporte y demás-. Además, nunca ha vivido por su cuenta, y no me parece prudente que se vaya de esa manera.
¿Siento algo por el hecho de que su tío impida que una joven de veintitantos años intente ganarse la vida por sí misma? La respuesta es SÍ, lo hago.
**Por favor, dime, ¿qué piensas?
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When you feel like
Exactly. No pressure.
😂 oh yeah, I agree with you.
I think to some extent, I understand her family, my dad would do the same, though in a gentle manner. His first point would be that you're a female 😂, then Lagos is not a place where you just move anyhow without knowing your environment or without proper guidance, among other pointsss.
As for freedom, no one should be in a hurry for that, I had a little, in school and even with the steady allowance, bills choke 😂. Considering the fact that she can't take care of all that, they could just have a reasonable conversation about what they want and what she wants (that's if both sides are willing to be reasonable though).
Well, you got your place clean and nice, you're probably enjoying that now, bright side😂,
I totally agree with you on this one. Lagos is a crazy place to live. Plus bills always choke no matter what. It's just crazy.
Yes o😁
People find it funny when I say I can't live there😂, I just don't think I have the energy.
You're used to it, I guess?
Lol. I understand.
I've lived here all my life and I can't imagine living anywhere else (within Nigeria).
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I think the uncle has seen her finished, like she doesn't have a plan in mind yet for when she leaves the house.
I don't think anyone would want to be feeding a twenty something year old, who could fend for his/her self
Lol. There's see finish of course, but I think it's more of his concern for her safety because she has never been to Lagos. But then, life is all about risks in the first place.
It's all to avoid "Them dey carry me go where I no know".
I get his reservations about her want for independence.
Lol. I think I do now. He's only on the look out for her.
Obviously, stability in every sense is important to take the step of moving away from your parents, but so is the effort you put into making that change.
Because sometimes people just complain, but don't do anything to change things.
You can even start by reducing your expenses and saving from your allowance, at least to have some money. Talk to a friend about sharing a room. Find a part-time or online job that allows you to think about the next step.
I'm one of those who believe that if you don't like something, you should do what you can to get out of it, and by that I include even relationships with parents.
I get along better with my mother now, since I live away from her. And although I miss her, I consider that if we were close it would not be the same.
Absolutely. I agree with you on this 100%. I also left home because I felt my parents weren't giving me the space I needed to grow and be responsible for myself. They wanted to do everything for me, when i wanted nothing more than to be independent.
For sure, that its the best way to grow.
Congratulations for doing that important step
Thank you😁