Dilution...
“It's funny how humans can wrap their mind around things and fit them into their version of reality.” ― Rick Riordan
As if there is not already enough cruelty in this world, yet here we sit – people “back biting”, crossing lines that should never be crossed, ego and greed steering the ship, respect rode a wave away a long time ago – all in aid of substantiating a point, or driving another to do things “their way”. They will tell and re-tell their stories, each time a little more diluted - swaying further to their favour – until eventually they believe their own version which has no truth left in it… just an empty cup… but this cup is cunningly presented to the mass as overflowing – never actually presenting the open end to those that listen eagerly to the glib which spews from the beholder – suckered and sold.
People like the idea of truth and transparency, but few can stare it head on in the face – allow it’s magnitude to penetrate beyond the masks and walls which they adorn for the world. Humans are too often coaxed by pretty packaging. Lured and swayed, buying into “things” which have absolutely no substance at the end of the day. Sometimes, I suppose – it is easier for many… to listen to a lie or absorb a skewed truth, than it is to stick their feet in the ground and say “NO”. This would actually require giving a shit (which most don’t) - A backbone, a fair amount of perseverance, resilience and probably a few other character strengths which most lack because self-service is the order of the day in the 21st century.
“Nothing captures human interest more than human tragedy.” ― Dan Brown
I have said it in a few posts over the years, and I will say it again. Nothing sells faster in the news than the demise of another. The human race is so horribly devoid of substance and REAL depth it is nauseating. We have so little left within as individuals that we consciously choose the attempt of filling ourselves with the downfall of another. We convince ourselves that they DESERVED IT, we will tell ourselves it is ok that they fall – but it isn’t! It never was and it never will be. I find it hard to understand how this form of CODING got to a point of human conditioning.
We literally LIE to ourselves and sell it as truth! We say things with laced tongue and say it isn’t so. We belittle others without giving a second thought that this could be the straw that breaks the camel’s back. We are manipulatively suggestive in commentary knowing that we leave the recipient with a loose end they have no idea what to do with, rendering them hopeless. We push others down so that we can find false rectification for our own insecurities, we bully, and dictate and yet – let even ONE of these things be done to us in return… what would we say then?! Suddenly, what is good for the goose is no longer good for the gander.
“I like living in my head because in there, everyone is kind and innocent. Once you start integrating yourself into the world, you realize that people are nasty, mean creatures. They're worse than zombies. People try to crush your soul and destroy your happiness, but zombies just want to have a little nibble of your brain.” ― J. Cornell
I have spent a few years hopping in puddles and scuffing my shoes in the dust around here, I have had my heart ripped out, lost everything I worked for and sat for more than a moment at the bottom of the barrel contemplating it all. I have felt many things throughout it all. Many, many things! But the one thing I have realised along the way is that I no longer have space inside me for dilution! I am DONE diluting my life with the crap that does not actually matter!
Most of which people consume their hearts and minds with on a daily basis is of no real consequence in the grand scheme of things… it leads nowhere and I want no part in it anymore. I have my fucking white flag and I am going to wave the shit out of that thing, all the way down “Main Street” screaming FUCK IT ALL!!!!! There is MORE to life than these trivialities!!!!
I want my life to have substance! My version of that may differ to others - and each to their own, but I am done buckling to the will of others just so they can justify their actions. Self-reflection is not always an easy thing to do, but it IS a very necessary thing and that experience will reach us ALL eventually. Reality check!
“Plants are more courageous than almost all human beings: an orange tree would rather die than produce lemons, whereas instead of dying the average person would rather be someone they are not.” ― Mokokoma Mokhonoana
People dilute their “primal” essence because they are so EASILY influenced by environment. They will bend their bodies and twist their minds. They will give gold to one, whilst having a knife in the other who held the bag. They will smile and scorn simultaneously and NONE of this is who they “actually are” - they just need to REALISE this.
I have and I want no further part in any of it.
“Only men would think of cutting themselves to determine who the packleader is. Idiots.” ― Christopher Paolini
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Quite an interesting read... Are you going away for awhile?
Thanks 🙂 and no, not at all.
Good...😎
A humble and kind, totally average and nondescript, man once said:
It took him a long, often difficult and painful, journey to come to understand what those words truly meant to him - But he is a better man for that suffering; The hard lessons, disappointment and final epiphany all making up what he calls life. He drew a line, no longer sought to control the uncontrollable and is ok, mostly.
Ok, so that was me above...I'm talking about myself; But you knew that.
@jaynie, below is text I wrote as a post some time ago in direct response to some negativity I was experiencing here on hive. Whilst I have attempted to present the best side of me some have chosen to see otherwise. It was not personal and they had no cause; It was just humans being human. I denied it life by ignoring it completely, but I wrote the piece below.
It does not refer to you in anyway, but those you speak of in your post above. I felt it may be relevant here, and if not please excuse me.
Your Negativity - By Galen
No, we're not the positive and negative ends of magnets attracted together, your negativity and I. We are not cheese and fine wine, two people meeting in a warm embrace or the most delicate of fragrances sprayed onto the neck of a lovely woman.
We don't belong, your negativity and I, and are not familiar. We don't feel right; Like warm mulled wine and a crackling fire on a wintery night or laying in summer grasses caressed by the breeze, serenaded by the birds.
We are strangers and I like it that way.
We will never be friends, your negativity and I, and that's of great comfort to me. Your negativity is like nothing to me, nothing but a malodorous stench; Like the smell of decay and rot on a battlefield.
It will find no welcome here, your negativity, no fissure to cling to, no gap to infiltrate, no safe harbour or secure purchase. It will float by unnoticed but for the light wrinkling of my nose as I catch its foul stench, and the thought in my mind that it's better yours than mine.
Better that you embrace it, your negativity, that you hoard it greedily to you like a miser his wealth. Don't be generous with it. Own it yourself, hold it closely and be the dim, cold winter that knows not when to end, the season that annuls the light and warmth of positivity. Clutch it in your cold skeletal hands like dead trees clutch to winters' ice, and rejoice loudly like the howling wind on the frozen tundra.
Sow the seeds of dissent and reap their decayed harvest, but sow them within yourself for they are not welcome here. Spread your foul word, that putrescent, fetid hopelessness, but know that it will find no fertile soil except within yourself and your barren fields of woe. Let your negativity languish in the cold, dark places deep within yourself that it doesn't sicken the world without.
I deny your negativity, cast it aside to fall away forgotten, trodden underfoot, left to die alone and lonely, unwanted and unloved. I repel it, your negativity, and banish it from existence because there is no room for it in my house and I want it not. It's yours, your negativity, so keep it, nurture and love it because as long as you do, it's all you'll ever have.
@jaynie I'm afraid I don't have an in-depth understanding of your troubles here on the platform, or anywhere else for that matter, but I value who you are as a person; Every imperfect, flawed, fallible and broken part of you - I am such myself and so I understand - Human beings have a choice and we made it, as others have made theirs.
You are imperfect, but it's your imperfections that make you perfectly you and it's enough; Being you, I mean.
I fucking dig that you said this next line:
You're a rockstar Jaynie, and that's a rockstar line.
You remember that humble and kind, totally average and nondescript man I mentioned above? Yeah, me. Here's another phrase:
Thanks for the piece above; Raw with emotion, brutally truthful. You have meaningful thought, or at least that's how I see it - It's a good quality; One of your many. You have my support and I'm available anytime if you want to chat - I'd like to.
Galen.
A rarity that is. ;) I read that quote at the end of your posts every single time I read them and it impacts me every single time!
Thank you for that post. It speaks loudly to me, but mostly, I love the way you wrote it. Having endured a lot of negativity in my life, I now sway far away from it, because the reality is, it is never worth getting entangled into it.... never!
Thank you. My heart like to ramble sometimes... always nice when another heart appreciates said ramble. I have actually always felt like I have had your support here on Hive, be it in the subtlest of forms... so thank you for that - it has never gone unnoticed nor unappreciated. In fact I think I have said those exact words to you on a couple of previous occasions - but happy to say them again.
Wise guy that...
Trust you to sum up a whole post of mine in just a few powerful words:
I like your version, but appreciate your kind words about mine.
Had and have - Thank you for noticing.
...not much escapes me.. I just don't always vocalise it. :)
Myself.
fncking Saffers....
Lol...You said it.
Wow Galen.. Love this piece! Totally Brilliant. 😊
!ENGAGE 20
Thank you sir...It was designed for a purpose, created from how I felt, and feel, on the topic and I think is somewhat relevant on Jaynie's post. Thanks for your kind words.
ENGAGEtokens.Yes diluting who you are to please those around you never brings the best out in you, perhaps it is a nervous reaction to being "seen" for who you truly are.
Self-deception takes a lot of work to make it work, then try unravel the real you at the end of the day.
Life is way too short to make pretend, rather live in the here and now, lesson learned myself is many will turn on you, scales are always balanced with those who remain.
Returning to the the quote, the truth is better accepted than limelight fakes who have convinced themselves they know all, no one has all the answers to questions.
No matter what people say, being truthful striving to assist one another without seeking reward or fame some will reactive positively others a negative reaction, tis life!
Yeah, a little bit of a knee-jerk for many I think Joan... myself though, I am simultaneously a quick decision maker and also not - authenticity is incredibly important to me and I will always try my hardest to take that "extra moment" to think about what I am doing, before I just do it - this generally renders a more REAL result.
You can say that again... lol! So much easier to just be yourself... even if that means you stand alone! - Which as you know well, I often do. I have learned to OWN that aspect of authenticity.
tis life indeed hon!
Cheers to that!
MWAH!
Ha ha, I drink I smoke and I swear, tis who I am, if people don't like it they can walk away.
Although I must be honest I do most my BS in my own home, never embarrass yourself outside, unless I really know you, then you most probably much the same as me, you know braai's and !WINE letting your hair down...
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I really don't have much to say except, this is a sad state of affairs.
Over the years, my circle of friends has become smaller.
In general, others despise one's success and revel in their failures.
A long time ago I came to the conclusion that the best way to go about avoiding all of the negativity was to stick to NNF, no new friends.
I can count my real friends on less than a hand if I am honest haha - and you know what, I would far prefer have that and KNOW that they are the real deal than have the numbers and nothing much else. Quality over quantity ALWAYS! Nice to see you pop up here.... hope you are well?
All is good on this end, besides all of the snow we returned to after spending some of this winter in Florida.
If we didn't have 4 children, I can honestly say that there are just three other people I could turn to in an emergency and they would be there without even thinking about it. Two of these very special people are girlfriends of @farm-mom that she has known forever. The other person would be my brother.
I hope all is good with you and of course your son.
Sounds like you are ALL alive and kicking in good fashion! :)
No complaints this side - AT ALL :) Thank you for asking!
MWAH!
I get it, and I applaud it. I never understood why folks are always chasing the latest fashion or trend. I have never been afraid to wear my own kind of hat. I dont have a thing to prove to anyone, and I dont want what I cant get on my own.
Well I think I quoted a couple of country songs there lol. Maybe that is what the world needs more of, old Willie, Waylon and the boys. :)
I LOVE your authenticity.... "being comfortable in yourself" is something you wear SO well and I LOVE IT!
More country music... NO objections from me and I am CERTAIN that @galenkp would share that sentiment!
It feels good to be free of that which binds us. I am glad to see you rise above that which was trying to hold you back. Being good, honest, and humble is going against the grain in so many cultures. Some see good and squash it like a bug. Others see good and protect it from those who will harm it.
I have to remind myself every day to stay the course, stay true to my values, help the helpless, and to stand strong in the face of evil. It sounds grander than it actually is, yet it's what we do every minute of every day.
Hope your well otherwise and hope your family is well. I miss digitally smelling whatever it is that your cooking on the bbq. I always liked those posts. Delicious!
I don't have the way with words like @galenkp, but I do have a video I want to share with you. I know you've seen it before. lol
How very TRUE!!!!
hehe thanks! Have not done many foodie posts in the last while, bar ONE. My life has been a little upside down so have not really been "feeling it". But yes I am well, thank you!!!
How are all the orchids? I STILL have not mastered that "side" of my green fingers.... sadly... my one and only is there, but NOT happy :( I need your help!!!!
Off to listen (again) now :) and thank you! and yes, @galenkp has a magical way with words doesn't he, but music does too - something he would no doubt appreciate equally.
Last but not least, apologies for the delayed response! Better late than never... :)
Take care and thanks for popping by! Always nice to see you on my comment thread.
My gosh, @jaynie. It sounds like something really terrible has happened to you. I'm sorry to hear it, whatever it is! You didn't actually indicate whether it was something personal to you, or things you have observed, or both, but it certainly seems to have really knocked you down. Sometimes "fuck it all" is the best approach. I hope you're okay. And whatever you do, don't dilute yourself. It is certainly not worth it!
Thank you for your concern love. Nothing terrible, not now anyway :) Just internal expression and processing put into written word for things in the recent past. :)
"Fuck it all"
Yip. I concur haha ;)
Thank you so much for your love!
Glad you're okay!
Mwah!
Appreciate the concern love. Very much.
Hope you have a lovely Saturday xxx