The Psychology Of Attraction; Simplified For Basic Understanding (Part 1)

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Introduction

Attraction what do you think about when you hear this? Beauty? Money? Wits? In the society where I come from, this is relevant. Attraction is that force that pulls attention and establishes interest from a point of object towards a subject. In our interactions with our environment, the society and fellow humans.

We cannot establish any form of relationship without a visible, an invisible or unseaming form of attraction to a person. What does this proves? This means that every time we feel an attraction, it is for a particular purpose which can be innate, obvious or unexplainable. The kind of attraction that is common is the one that can people can see, sometimes subject A for example can establish example for B simply because of a physical attribute which he has interpreted to malign with his interest or standards.

Physical Attraction

When people are physically attracted, it is more obvious rather than innate. This of course can happen in a split of seconds. The human mind is the fastest processor, it has the ability to judge, discern, make assertions and conclusions within a second based on what it has perceived. However, this can be flawed or influenced.

You can influence a person to be physically attracted to you, and this means that one great mind can influence another great mind through the act of deception. However, this attraction doesn't just limit it's boundary to the opposite sex. Truth is, a man can be physically attracted to another man without sexual intents. For example, when a man is inclined to another as a result of their dress sense, they might inadvertently establish a likelihood for this person. This totally works in the psychology of marketing. Influencing a person's Choices based on what they think of how you appear.


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But then, physical attraction is what leads to other forms of attraction; when you're physically attracted to a person, it might not generally be their looks, it might be how they smile, or the way they laugh. This extends beyond looks, but still attributes to physical attraction. There's of course the attraction to the intellect, a sense of perspective or a choice of behavioral construct.

Psychological Attraction

This isn't instant. There are some things we cannot instantly fathom. Because of how we constantly evolve, change and can be explicitly dynamic, it takes a while for others to place a patent permanent disposition to our personality. Generally, all humans don't think alike. Some are far superior, and this is what you'll call sheer intelligence. It's not common and hence it can be attractive because it's effective can be charming.

Material Attraction

Then, there's the attraction to materialism. This is dominant in a society where money outweighs the importance of character, (seldom true but not always true). In reality, everyone is drawn to affluence, money and wealth, this is because every action we perform in life is to maximize pleasure but to minimize pain. We want a life of comfort, hence we're drawn to the source where we can find it.

Excessive of this brings greed. This is why we have come to learn how to curtail this animalistic instinct. Many folks have argued that this is dominant in the females, but this is totally impressionistic rather than factual. The attraction to materialism lies in everyone, but predominantly in some others. This is majorly driven by the fact that people want to be connected and comfortable. But of course, this can be misguided as it's prone to deceptive tendencies.


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Goal-Based Attraction

Another one is Attraction based on having similarities. For example, from Subject A to Subject B. This is the kind of attraction that can be beneficial as well as somewhat flawed in the long-term. Truth is, we're driven by similarities and this is why we have the inclination to be compartmentalized, segregated and synchronized. However, goals and aspirations and the people who share or establish commonness brings a kindred feeling.

This is why you have associated, guilds, awareness programs and of course movements. In life, no one is truly a loner, and this is why every human being cannot but attribute some part of their achievements to someone who probably once shared commonness with them. In our bid to belong we often seek out people who are similar to us in diverse areas and this is how we establish compatibility to some certain extent. (In my next post I'll be talking about the true achievement and intents of attraction)




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You look good in picture

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likeness and attraction works together, when you like someone or you create an interest in him/her, you can easily make such person attractive to you.
But attraction comes first, her look will attract you before you begin to like.
According to what you said, you can make someone attractive to you, that's where likeness comes in.


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So true we begin to like one outer self when we feel attractive to someone

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Normally... Attraction is what forestalls likeness. Attraction is what builds the foundation for likeness, can't like a person without being attracted to them, this of course isn't just about the opposite sex, like I mentioned.

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Really could connect a few of the missing pieces, really liked it. Looking forward to the next one.

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As a psychologist, you are treading on a subject that blends with biology and other compartmentalized subjects; this must be slightly challenging. This makes it difficult to fully explain I would have to imagine. But you are doing it greatly in my opinion.

I tend to side with you and love your stuff because it focuses on the mind, society and individual human thought.

Truly, most everything in our life is drawn to it with our thoughts; both conscious and unconscious.

So...

Great job attracting beautiful women, people and success to you and those around you!

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As a psychologist, you are treading on a subject that blends with biology and other compartmentalized subjects; this must be slightly challenging.

It's of course very challenging. The thing is, psychology relates with the biology of the human mind and body and it's anatomy as well, it taps into subjects like marketing and advertising as well as sociology and physiology. So sometimes one needs to have a knowledge of these different field to fully understand the complexity of Psychology. I'm doing fairy well with how broadened it is, but then it's something one can attain mastery one. Lucky for me, I've been writing for close to 15 years.

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Ahh brother... I can't speak to your psychological analysis of attraction, I've nothing to say other than it is nice to see you and all your friends and family looking so happy!

That makes grin a mile wide my friend 😃
lovely to see m8!

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