Knowing The "Right Time" To Lend Emotional Support
There are times in life when people do not really need realistic feedbacks about them or about how their lives has taken a rather painful turn. One of the reason is, realistic feedbacks can be demoralizing especially if it is meant to remind one of a problematic situation in their life. In this video I talked about how we trade happiness or comfort for safety and providence, how we trade our time for essentials and how we often put ourselves through uncomfortable situation so as to achieve an aim or a goal. In essence, achieving an aim or a goal is no mean feat and this will be evident in our lives when we undergo this stress.
In this video, I talked about how it's important for we as humans to laud ourselves for giving off our essence to in other to be achievers.
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I think it is really important how people lend their emotional support and most times people do not know how to help properly especially in Nigeria
I remember complaining about work to a friend and he said everyone goes through it and I don't know why but I got angry.
I totally relate with people commenting on their features, I remember losing weight and people saying I looked ugly 😆
Actually I get overly angry about this as well and the reason is because stress or life issues isn't something we should feel it is normal to be used to. Different people are conditioned diversely and we don't actually control how we cope with life. This is why it is important for us to relate with people who understands how it is to go through what we are going through.
Not everyone is conscious enough to use their conscience quite properly and this is huge.
Exactly what I tried to explain but most times I am tagged as overly sensitive.
It's the right thing to do. Sincerly, you're not over sensitive
It's funny, some people feel like if you're not stressed or "suffering" you're not doing the job well. But everything no suppose be suffer head
This your comment @sylviaijay reminded me of this infographic.
I don't know why Nigerians are so emotionally unintelligent
Being a Nigerian, you have to 'strong' your mind because people will talk! Ah. If you don't keep a deaf ear to what people say you will be demoralised for the most part. People will have opinions about you or your appearance when they have no idea what you're going through and you can't open up to such people.
It's why I actually talked about people who sometimes sacrifice a whole lot in other to stay alive or survive. It's often belittling when people talk without activating their conscience, they relay feedbacks without actually considering the feeling of others, it's painful. I had to address this in a video. Life isn't all beautiful, sometimes we go through really testing phases. Thank you for dropping by.
There is really a right time for every emotional support. As a health worker, I have got to break some not good news to people and I have come to learn that there is a right time for emotional support. At times, the best to do at a point is to just keep silent and be present, give an affirming facial expression or a touch rather than say anything.
I recently visited a family member who went through a serious health challenge and another fam asked if I discussed the persons health with him. I told him I didn't because that it ll only remind him of the pains he went through even if I may give comforting support. I just gave a loving support and allow him heal. When he talked about it, I gave a listening ear and that was the appropriate support at that time.
This world we are no matter what people will surely say and the main thing is to turn a deaf hear to things which won't be of benefit to you