Fear of failure in life [ESP/ING]
¡Hola, Comunidad de Hive!
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El día de hoy quiero compartir con esta increíble comunidad de mujeres, ese sentimiento que todos como seres humanos llegamos a tener: fracasar ante la vida. Siento que el termino de fracaso depende de cada concepto que individualmente se tenga. Igualmente por años se ha generalizado lo que es fracasar, lo asocian muchas veces a diferentes situaciones que en realidad todos pasamos, así que el día de hoy quiero expresar como me he sentido con el miedo a fracasar en la vida.
El fracaso principalmente para mí no existe, claro no es que todo el tiempo he pensado así, antes pensaba que siempre fracasaba porque no tenía la aceptación de todos pero con el tiempo y la madurez me di cuenta que realmente a veces podemos no lograr algo, no podremos tener la aceptación del mundo; pero aprendemos mucho más que si todo hubiese salido perfecto.
Today I want to share with this incredible community of women, that feeling that all of us as human beings come to have: failure in life. I feel that the term failure depends on each individual's concept. Also for years it has been generalized what it means to fail, it is often associated to different situations that in reality we all go through, so today I want to express how I have felt with the fear of failure in life.
Failure mainly for me does not exist, of course it is not that all the time I have thought like that, before I thought I always failed because I did not have the acceptance of all but with time and maturity I realized that really sometimes we can not achieve something, we can not have the acceptance of the world; but we learn much more than if everything had gone perfect.
Como dije, esta concepción del no fracaso me vino después de muchas cosas que pase, pero no puedo mentirles y decirles que no tuve miedo a no ser aquello que yo quería o que otros soñaban para mi. El miedo nos paraliza, y en ocasiones no nos deja ser felices. Tenemos miedo a no llenar las expectativas, tenemos miedo a sentir dolor, nos aterroriza la idea de quedarnos solos, de no ser sinceros con nosotros mismos, pensamos más en el que dirán que en nuestros sentimientos... Nos creamos muchas veces una versión de nosotros que nos protege del mundo, pero no nos deja ver quienes somos realmente.
El miedo a fracasar en la vida como mujeres creo que es un poco más grande, porque desde que somos pequeña tenemos a muchas personas diciéndonos que es lo que tenemos que hacer en la vida y aunque las cosas han cambiado un poco, siento que igualmente hay mucha presión siempre por como debemos ser. Algunas como yo nos damos cuenta que no podemos satisfacer a todos, no podemos tener super poderes, no somos centros de rehabilitación y sobre todo también necesitamos de ayuda, también necesitamos saber que podemos caernos y que al hacerlo tendremos quien nos atrape.
A veces lo que consideramos como fracaso en realidad es un gran trampolín para mejores cosas en nuestras vidas, para aprender y ser mejores. Caernos es necesario, nadie puede vivir realmente y nunca fracasar, porque vivir implica tomar decisiones y como no somos perfectos, nunca sabremos si estamos tomando el camino correcto, solo podemos ser fieles a nosotros mismos.
As I said, this conception of not failing came to me after many things I went through, but I cannot lie to you and tell you that I was not afraid of not being what I wanted or what others dreamed for me. Fear paralyzes us, and sometimes does not let us be happy. We are afraid of not fulfilling expectations, we are afraid of feeling pain, we are terrified of the idea of being alone, of not being honest with ourselves, we think more about what people will say than about our feelings? We often create a version of ourselves that protects us from the world, but does not let us see who we really are.
The fear of failing in life as women I think is a little bigger, because since we are little we have many people telling us what we have to do in life and although things have changed a little, I feel that there is still a lot of pressure always for how we should be. Some like me realize that we can't satisfy everyone, we can't have super powers, we are not rehabilitation centers and above all we also need help, we also need to know that we can fall and in doing so we will have someone to catch us.
Sometimes what we consider as failure is actually a great springboard to better things in our lives, to learn and be better. Falling down is necessary, no one can really live and never fail, because living implies making decisions and as we are not perfect, we will never know if we are taking the right path, we can only be true to ourselves.
Si me preguntan a mi, para las demás personas habré fracasado muchas veces, para mí solo he aprendido a conocerme, a brillar a pesar de las adversidades y a ser honesta conmigo misma. El miedo por equivocarme sigue existiendo, porque no puedo ser perfecta siempre, pero he aprendió que no hay fracaso, porque siempre volvemos a sentirnos mejor.
A todas las mujeres de esta comunidad, y a cualquier persona que me lea quiero decirles que el tener miedo es natural, solo nos queda saber que quizá nuestras percepciones sobre la vida y el fracaso cambien... Así que solo concentrémonos en seguir lo que queremos, y ponerle todo el amor del mundo a esto.
El fracaso no existe, solo existen los intentos por ser felices.
If you ask me, for other people I will have failed many times, for me I have only learned to know myself, to shine despite the adversities and to be honest with myself. The fear of being wrong still exists, because I can not always be perfect, but I have learned that there is no failure, because we always come back to feel better.
To all the women in this community, and to anyone who reads me I want to say that being afraid is natural, we just need to know that maybe our perceptions about life and failure will change.... So let's just focus on following what we want, and put all the love in the world into it.
There is no such thing as failure, there are only attempts to be happy.
Muy acertada tu post, el fracaso es solo una forma de aprender a hacer las cosas de una forma diferente. Te felicito, has escapado de la trampa de agradar a todo el mundo, eso es imposible. A la unica que debes agradar es a ti misma!. Totalmente de acuerdo contigo donde escribres "El fracaso principalmente para mí no existe"
Very accurate your post, failure is just a way to learn to do things in a different way. I congratulate you, you have escaped the trap of pleasing everyone, that is impossible. The only one you have to please is yourself. I totally agree with you where you write "Failure does not exist for me".
Muchísimas gracias por su comentario ❤️ la verdad es que me ha encantado expresarme. Saludos ❤️
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What you say is true! It is okay to be who we are and how we go about things. We cannot learn if everything we try goes the way it's supposed to. That temporary 'failure' will make us stronger! I cannot achieve perfection no matter how hard I might try, but it's okay as I don't think I'd want to be perfect! Life would be boring in a way.
Thank you for sharing and reminding us all that it's okay! Take care!
Thanks to you for reading me, I love to share my insights here. Greetings ❤️
You are welcome!🤗💜
Me encanto tu post, es muy cierto lo que dices. No existe el fracaso sino las experiencias, no se pierde sino se gana conocimiento!! :* Besos!