Timid
I realized most children who grow up to be timid is sourced from their childhood programming, myself included. No matter how intelligent we are, we shriek from participating in most activities because we are scared of failing, being ridicule, or intimidated. Sometimes I want to break out of this shell but unconsciously I find myself returning to that coven, I just tend to find the other part intimidating which makes me breed fear. I have read books on courage, boldness, fearlessness, etc. But they seem to inspire me into action for just some few days or week, then, I'm back to who I was before I read those books.
Childhood programming is a very strong force in a child's life, whatever they are taught at that tender age sticks with them almost forever, and this is the reason why parents need bring up their children in a pattern of the future they expect of them. Been timid has its positive and negative parts, but sometimes the negative part seems to overshadow the positive part making it silhouette.
I still believe childhood programming could be altered, but could take a longer time, and it's a gradual process that needs continuous improvement, erasing what we've learned in the past and replacing it with ideas that speaks action.
Realizing a problem is such a great step towards fixing it.
Childhood programming is such a thing that shouldn't be encouraged when the programming is wrong.
But like you said, it can be altered. It takes more than motivation and inspiration. It takes consistent determination. It takes passion, it takes drive.
You wanna alter it, be consistently committed to putting yourself out, despite how fast your heart is beating.
Thank you, I appreciate you opinion on this.
This is really impacting.
I can tell you not to read just books but to associate with those who really find themselves active and engaged in things that you find mutual with.
That's the quickest way to deal with the past.
They'll always identify when the innermost man in you is trying to take over your physical personality.
It's really bad to train a child in such a way that he or she will grow up timid.
I see no advantage at all.
Sorry for finding yourself in such category.
And lastly, avoid being a loner. That's the real poison for timidity.
Thank you for the advice, that was a beautiful suggestion
Okay bro.
It's all gonna be alright
Hello @dwixer,
While you may feel timid and act timid around people sometimes, you are an assertive person here, on Hive. You have an impact on people. Many people write blogs that don't make a difference. Your blogs make a difference.
So, the way you feel around people, and act around people, may feel limiting, but you have found a way not to be timid. That is an amazing adaptation. As you grow older and continue to assert yourself here, and experience success, I think you will find you are less timid around people.
Have a wonderful day, my friend @dwixer.
Thank You, I agree with you, I find social platform like this a medium to write and communicate my ideas.
Thanks for reading through
Hello @dwixer. You have a lovely article. When you say "childhood programming", there are two different scenarios. One is inside the home with family members. The other is outside the home with friends, others who may try to treat you with disrespect; bullying; threatening; making you feel not good about yourself.
If such treatment continues for a period of time, it can condition children to develop a negative image of themselves.
One suggestion may be to surround yourself with friends who understand how you feel and will work with you to assist.
Thanks for sharing.
Thank You, I have tried making friends who understand me and I'll keep to it