I am who I am
Again
I am not who I want to be.
I'm not what I should be.
I'm not the one my mom wanted me to be.
I'm not even the one I was.
I am who I am.
By the way, for me, all our psychological pathology comes from denying this sentence.
All our neuroses start when we try to be what we are not.
In "Recounts for Demián" I wrote about the self-rejection:
... It all started that gray day
where did you stop saying proud
I AM...
And between embarrassed and fearful
you put your head down and changed
your sayings and attitudes
for a terrible thought:
I SHOULD BE...
... And if it is difficult to accept that I am who I am, how much more difficult is it,
Sometimes, accept the third derivation of "What is, is":
You ... you are who you are.
That is to say,
You are not who I need you to be
You are not the one you were
You are not how it suits me
You are not how I want
You are like you are
Accepting this is respecting yourself and not asking you to change.
I recently began to define true love as the selfless task
to create spaces so that the other is who they are.
This first "truth" is the beginning (in both senses, of first and of primordial) of any adult relationship.