THE STRENGTH OF A MOTHER

Hello Hivers! today was a bit hectic at work.

I met a unique woman, who came to our firm with some documents, telling me that she required our services and I was like okay, "you have to first meet my boss for him to give me instructions". I helped place an appointment for her to meet my boss which she eventually did.

After the meeting with my boss, he referred her back to me and apart from her main brief she shared her story with me and anyone who cared to listen.

Her Story (gotten Permission to share with Hive)

"I got married to my present husband 30 years ago, after losing the first one to a ghastly motor accident. I was already pregnant with my first daughter. I took the pregnancy to my new husband and we stayed at peace until someday when he began to misbehave by misusing money.

I am a seamstress, a cook and a decorator. I love my job and do it wholeheartedly. I made a lot of money from my jobs and used them in catering for my family needs. I gave birth to four children for my present husband and have been the one seeing them through their education. Three of my children are graduates from the University through my hard earned sponsorship.

Sometime ago, my husband and I saw a parcel of land and were interested in buying it. My husband did not have enough money for the land so I added 80% of the amount and we purchased the land but the land agreement was made in my husband's name as by then my mum who was still alive, advised that women were not really regarded in this part of the world so, my name should not be included in the drafting.

We joined hands and built a house we now live in, a 6 bedroom flat with boys quarters on that parcel of land.

Now this is the 21st century.

My husband left the house for another woman who is far older than him because she has a Very big waist. She has no child for him and I thank God. He has never had any paying job, but all he does is go around and borrow money from people. I had a very big shop where I had workers under me and put my husband as the manager but all he did was to place my sewing and weaving machines as collateral for the loans he collected without my knowledge.

My husband will walk into my shop at any time of the day and demand for the nearest available sales money, which would be given to him without my knowledge by my workers.

Things began to crumble and before I knew what was going on, my business had crumbled beyond repairs.

One day I was lucky he told me he had sold all his remaining inherited lands in the village and when I asked him of the money, he got angry and assaulted me terribly. Ever since that day I never requested money from him again to avoid beating.

I started depending on my catering and decorating work. I stood alone, providing for food, drugs, clothings and other bills for the family. I pushed my children through their education alone. Two of my children are still in the Higher Institution. It has not been easy. I am now looking older than my age mates. Family members and friends who know what I go through in my matrimonial home, asked me to leave but I refused to leave. How can I leave my matrimonial home? Who will I leave my children for?

Now what brought me to this office is that my husband wants to use the house we currently live in as a collateral for a bigger loan he collected from a financial institution I don't know. 80% of the money putted in that property belongs to me from the scratch and I can't lose this one. Where he cannot repay this loan and we are evicted from the property where do we go? I have suffered enough to let this happen. Please help me, I want your firm to keep this document safe as it will stop my husband from doing anything concerning the property."

She continued with "my husband fell seriously ill and we took him to the hospital, I and the children footed the bill, N150,000.00, just to save his life. He is strong now and has gone to stay with his concubine. I pray I live to see the prosperity of my children."

This woman has gone through a lot!

I swallowed bitterly and thought of the things our mothers go through most especially for their children. From the time of pregnancy, many women struggle alone, they Carry it alone. During the period of giving birth they struggle and feel the pains alone. If they deliver through CS they bear everything alone and come out to live for their children.

It doesn't just stop there, they work so hard just to see the children succeed. They cry when we are in pains, they scold us when we are going astray, they undertake sacrifices for us. Even though a father neglects the needs of a child, the mother will always be there.

I don't believe in the saying that why we mostly find moms in their child or children's function is simply because the father is busy with work. No.🙄 So many Institutions around the world, both small and great, are filled with women who work so hard and that has nothing to do with the gender population ratio. But the fact is that Women in general, "our mothers" present and future, are taking over 💯 responsibilities.

I have known mothers to be the species of people who create time for their children no matter what. Mothers work hard too and always have the interest of their families at heart.

Mothers deserve to be celebrated at every given point in time. I know 10% of people in the world have experienced the negative perspective of a mother. But I believe, no matter what a mother must have done to her child or children, she never meant any harm. She did it to protect the interest of the child and many times she regrets it and cries in secret.

Let's take good care of our Mothers no matter what and always pray for them to stay long and strong. Mothers are worth Celebrating.

I celebrate every mother, including mine, single or married, on Hive and everywhere around the world 😘 you are Loved and your tireless efforts are appreciated.

I would love Hivers to make their sincere contributions to this.

While I take a short nap. I'll be up soon.

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