Speaking With The Intention To Communicate

You cannot underestimate the power that has been embedded in the words we speak. However, with all the potency of words, saying something may not be equal to communicating. There is usually the way and manner (call it "how to") that words should be used in order to communicate rightly.

Firstly, it is worthy to note that words normally have intentions behind them but what dictates if the intentions are related as intended is the way the words are spoken. Let us bring in "tone" here. The tone with which you speak has the ability to altar the intention you have in mind in the perception of the person you are communicating with.

Someone may be trying to make a point, even in an argument, but their tone can make a mess of the whole thing and they might go ahead to offend both the other party and themselves because of the tone of communication. I remember what a friend normally said way back when we were growing up and under the influence of "youthful exuberance":

One of the things that show maturity is the way you speak. You do not have to shout in order to prove your point

Someone may have offended you but the truth is; there is a way you will react and there is a manner you will speak, their offences will turn and the table will be against you. You do not talk to people in any manner you like because you feel you can do it. "It is a free world" you may say. Yes, it is but it only covers your freedom of speech. However, your freedom after speech may not be certain, so be wise.

Communication is not just speaking words. Tones matter a lot if you must make a point. More so, there are also other non-verbal communication tools that one can employ in order to help communicate their intention.

I remember a few months back, I was trying to talk to someone for a particular wrong that she did but the way she responded to my correction made me to ask myself if the tone of the correction was good. When I realized that I did not correct her in the appropriate manner, I still had to apologize to her because the table almost turned against me. You see, she was the first offender but I was the one that ended up apologizing simply because I did not employ the right tone.

Asides considering your tone, you should also consider other non-verbal languages. Your body language (which forms a major part of your communication tool), has a way of communicating your intentions. Even your expression can make a loud statement in the mind of people.

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