Toxic relationships (malicious minds)
Stay away malicious mind
They are in many places but they are all cataloged to achieve the same objective, no matter if the circumstances and actions are variable. They are there latent observing that you are an easy prey.
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Have you ever heard that someone is happy with a toxic partner?
Well, yes, and a few questions immediately come to mind.
Can you really be happy next to a toxic partner?
How is this person's self-esteem?
Are you sure what it says?
Being toxic means having a totally malicious mind with the ability to manipulate and envelop its victim to the point of making him believe in him blindfolded without realizing that he is being treated by a manipulative beggar, who seeks to be in command of everything. . . . and to be the leader of the relationship, exhausting the means and any action so that his will be done.
Everything coldly calculates each step, each action, nor does it give you time to think of an answer when it wants something, it achieves it, it can be subtle but at the same time a total executioner depends on the reactions of the partner. . . . . . if at any point he is challenged, he will surely come out unscathed and a winner.
When we enter the hands of a toxic person we will be stepping on a minefield that at any moment we take a wrong step could explode.
Its behavior can be:
Adopted or simply caused by some trauma at a stage in his life.
People can suffer some disappointment in their life and this immediately transforms into insecurities and low self-esteem, when we talk about toxic relationships, not only can a love relationship be identified, but also between family, friends, colleagues and in any environment that is where there is coexistence of two or more people.
A maliciously toxic person can be easily identified:
Possessive and controlling.
when you want to take control of your decisions or actions
It is arbitrary
Selfish
It always reminds you that it is totally up to you
He does everything possible to make you financially dependent on him
Tries or mistreats you physically and verbally.
You feel intimidated by any action taken.
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The consequences of being part of a toxic relationship implies very severe damage for people, more than physical, they can be emotional psychological, and those are the most difficult damage to heal at any stage of our lives, if at some point you detect any behavior that is not consistent within of your love relationship or social circle, take the necessary steps to get away intelligently, because otherwise you will have to leave a labyrinth where the only exit is very narrow.
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Tips
A relationship cannot be a prison
Let's not be excessively permissive with the people around us
The more submissive you are, the more they take advantage of your nobility.
Having self-love can be the key to everything
We do not give access to this type of people in our life and our life is very brave and we would like to have pleasant and happy moments, we do not want to waste time in the life of an unpleasant person who only wants his property. . We are not to blame for someone else's past, each one is responsible for their actions and each one must bear its consequences without the need for another person to have a traumatic abyss.
Let's get rid of these malicious behaviors.
In a given case that we are the malicious person, the healthiest thing is to ask for professional help and not anchor ourselves to constant suffering, much less absorb the soul of another person through our bad actions. we're old enough to assume we have a problem and get out of there. because being malicious leads nowhere.
Each of the parties has their responsibility, let's take control of our life and get a place within the people who want to build a new world with hope, love and peace, it is difficult but not impossible. As long as the sun keeps rising, it means that we hope something good can happen, let's use our intelligence to drive away greed, hatred, envy, bad intentions and malicious minds from our lives. the world is very small and let's not forget that we can go from being a hunter to being an easy prey to catch.
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Let's get rid of these malicious behaviors.
In a given case that we are the malicious person, the healthiest thing is to ask for professional help and not anchor ourselves to constant suffering, much less absorb the soul of another person through our bad actions. let's be adult enough to assume we have a problem and get out of there. because being malicious leads nowhere.
Each of the parties has their responsibility, let's take control of our life and get a place within the people who want to build a new world with hope, love and peace, it is difficult but not impossible. As long as the sun keeps rising, it means that we hope something good can happen, let's use our intelligence to drive away greed, hatred, envy, bad intentions and malicious minds from our lives. the world is very small and let's not forget that we can go from being a hunter to being an easy prey to catch.
This is my participation in the word of the week, Maliciousness from Discord (POB WOTW - S3W21)
Lovely one, sometimes we cannot help but notice malicious tendencies all over. Could be present in relationships, work or other places in our lives. At the end of the day we should strive for a healthy relationship Just like you have stated.
Well said @josediccus, we are all prone to falling into one of these heinous relationships but it is up to us if we accept or reject, it all depends on the degree of confidence we have in ourselves. the consequences are incalculable.
And it's amazing how there are people who know this, know it's toxic but still believe it, giving it several chances or just deluding themselves and spend their life suffering without understanding what's really going wrong with them...
Toxic relationships are a hard prison to cope with, been there, had one, but the weird part is: you become toxic your self.
Meaning, the person who is toxic ends up influencing their couple and they become toxic as well. Dont know why but is how i lived it and it was weird when i was in therapy to see the doc and the psicologist talking about how to detoxify me of her influence...
Anyways big hug and a bit of self love is all you need to give up and leave those prisons, to become free of that influence :D
Go @jesustiano, thanks for sharing your experience, that more than an experienced person to give great advice. If it is not too much to ask, I would like to know if you surpassed that stage of your life or can it be completely healed?
Basically you move on with your life and slowly forget the evil and love the good things you learned, at some point naturally you forget what it was like and learn to love your self the best :)
Is weird, but therapy helps a lot, believe me
Enlightening and quality content right here. I always had this type of mindset and that's why I prefer to be single and happy than to be in a toxic relationship.
That's right, but don't be afraid to fall in love and be loved, because moments in the company of love are more pleasant.
Exactly, You got a very big point right there. Thanks a lot for the good advice.
"take the necessary steps to get away intelligently, because otherwise you will have to leave a labyrinth where the only exit is very narrow." Sound advice although I feel the most difficult to those under the spell of a manipulative toxic persona. Often their own decision to leave is one balanced on a knife-edge due to the disproportionate balance of power within their relationship. And the longer they stay, the more difficult it becomes to extricate themselves; either out of fear of physical harm and retribution or concerns over their ability to be able to sustain themselves financially. I agree that this is where an intelligent choice needs to operate and people need to seek urgent professional support.