How Difficult Is Making New Friends?

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You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. Dale Carnegie.


I once heard that if you want to make new friends, you should be less interested in yourself and be more interested in them. As simple as it sounds I never could get it....I want to make new friends but how do I become interested in someone enough for us to "click". When I was younger, I used to have a couple of friends but growing up I just realized that there are no longer there which is due to different reasons or the other, now I am just in my own space. Honesty, I do like my own space and all but sometimes I miss the hanging out with "genuine" friends...the ones who know me so well.

Now, as much as it sound easy I think making new friends is a bit hard. Do I say "Hello, what if I am not the kind of friend they want? What if he thinks I am interested in him in the other sense? Oh I better hold it". Or better still, some just give you this attitude that makes you feel like you need something from them..."just cool off will you". Then the friendship ends even before it begins.


So the question is how can I make new friends without feeling like I am begging for their attention? How can I be interested in someone enough for us to just flow with each other, whether here or in the real world. I am someone who has just very few people in her circle but sometimes I want to meet new people, make friends especially the interesting kinds of people, who are open to making new "ship" also.

Maybe it is inferiority complex or the thoughts of not been enough....i can't really say. Anyway, it is not like I can order new friends on the menu, what I can do however is to be open to the idea of making one. Try getting to know them by showing genuine interest in them.


Wishing to be friends is quick work, but friendship is a slow ripening fruit. Aristotle





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For me it's not the amount of friends you have, it's how genuine they are.
I rather have a few REAL ones than 100 fake ones.
I appriciate the little things in life and genuine friends are Golden.
I have been Lucky to have friends that I call family ❤️ precious.
YOU are one of them sweet sis 😘

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Yes, I agree with you..."it is not the amount of friends but how genuine they are". However, making new friends isn't a bad thing, I know most people don't go around actually looking for one but they meet them anyway. We have to give people a chance to know if they are genuine or not...although, I understand where you are coming from. Meeting new people is a very exciting experience but would they stick around long enough to actually build that friendship?

You are one positive, huggabutt, crazy love human being lol....you are also among the best. 😘🤗

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Thanks for continuing to make Hive awesome.

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