My first #500wordsaday // Daily reflection: do you know how to forgive and ask for forgiveness ???

Today I write my first publication for 500 words a day and I decide to start with a reflection that has been echoing in my head for days, something a little out of the ordinary but that makes a lot of sense to me, I am talking about forgiveness when we must ask for forgiveness and in what moment should we forgive?

My dilemma between these words is something difficult to clarify. I believe that in order to forgive, we must first be sure that we have healed that wound that someone opened in us, heal that part that was hurt and be able to rebuild the heart that was broken at some point in order to move on, something that many usually do quite quickly, not because they have overcome those who hurt them but to be able to cope with that pain with company.

In particular, I think that the word forgiveness is one of the greatest and most meaningful in life and we must know how to use and understand it correctly, we must not forgive unless we feel in a condition to heal and we must not ask for forgiveness if we are not truly sorry for our acts and thoughts. Many people hurt with their actions or words and think that with just this word the act they committed will disappear without any problem and life can continue, but really this is not something that simple sometimes the injured are so great that they take a long time to be able to heal.

And although it is thought that everything can be solved and continued for many it is difficult to assimilate, and I think that I enter this lot of person in both cases equally, in the first case it is very difficult for me to continue as if nothing had In the past, with the same treatment or the same way of being with that person who hurt my feelings, it is difficult for me to think about why some people enjoy hurting or causing pain to another for no apparent reason, such an action fills them with satisfaction, which I think really cruel and out of place, so I think that forgiving and moving on is not a matter of healing, it is a matter of analyzing the facts and consequences and thinking if it is really worth moving on with that person.

For me I think that this is not an option, because to heal it is better to move away, forget and close that cycle with that person, it is not a matter of resentment, the fact of not forgiving and walking away is a matter of health and peace of mind that we need so much in our lives. lives. The second case for me is much more difficult, it is really not easy for me to ask for forgiveness, because I believe that we must be aware of our actions and words before doing them, knowing the consequences that these will bring in the worst case scenario.

And if we are aware of the damage that we are going to cause or of the wound that we will open with our words so that we can ask for forgiveness or to repent of something that you knew you were going to cause, if with that the situation did not change, I know that sometimes we let ourselves lead by our impulses and we make bad decisions there I think we can rectify and our forgiveness would be true because we would feel it in every sense of the word, and if we manage to rectify and correct our error, forgiveness happens to make one of our least problems.

Although sometimes if we really do not feel sorry for our actions, words or thoughts, why ask for forgiveness, and this I think is the most disturbing case because at this time I do not feel sorry for my thoughts and words and I consider asking for forgiveness It is an act of hypocrisy and falsehood against the other person, I believe that asking God for forgiveness for my thoughts is the most correct, but not asking forgiveness for being sorry because I am not because of what seems to me something out of place fill my mouth with empty words that don't really reflect what my feelings say.

To ask for forgiveness and to forgive we must feel in our hearts the true meaning of these words, never fill our hearts or the ears of others with empty words, on the contrary, if we really feel our actions, demonstrate it with deeds to those we want, allow and allow us to continue our lives with the best of hope and satisfaction.