How traditional wedding is done in my village.

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Good day guys. it's been quite a while. I will be telling you about my small village, and how we do traditional. though I wasn't born in the village, I never allow my parent to have peace. I always ask them about the village where I come from. some months ago I was opportune to attend a traditional marriage of my cousin. I was there I saw how things were done. and I took the image from the occasion I will love to share with you guys.

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INTRODUCE MY VILLAGE
I am from a well-known community, which has turned into a small village because of the diabolical practices that they are known for. so many of it habitant fled to the nearby community some to another state and became a citizen. without plans of going back. but all these happened in the 90s now the village is gradually returning to its lost glory. my village is situated in the northern part of Akwa-Ibom State. it is known as Imbia-obong village. we have a leader. which is the Obong meaning the head of the village. we also have a youth leader and a women leader. we are well known for our vast production of palm oil and fresh palm wine, I went there when I was 12, I was given palm wine by my grandpa, and trust me it was the best. I never will forget that test.

The bride giving wine to the groom. This is done to show all present that she is indeed happy to marry him. It is a ritual done in most tribes in Nigeria.
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DOWRY PROCESS
I will now be telling you the whole dowry process in m village. as the saying goes he that findeth a wife findeth a good thing. before thinking of doing your traditional wedding I will advise that you are financially buoyant. first daughters in my community are always held in high esteem, marrying a first daughter in my community is often not very easy as the man will have to go through some certain ritual that will make him qualified. you will be carefully examined for some period of months, during this time your family background will be checked, and everything concerning your health. after you pass all these tests you will be called to get the list of items you are to give to the family. but for other daughters, all these are not looked into.

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The father of the bride handing over his daughter to her in-laws.
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Bride and groom receiving words of wisdom from their elders.
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below I will be telling you what and what you need to marry a woman from my village.

  1. the guy in question will go to the compound of the girl he wants to marry not empty-handed, he must go there with a bottle of wine. then tell them what took him there. this part is called Ndidiong Ufok meaning (know her compound). he will be called upon the second time if he is accepted.

  2. when he is called upon the second time, he will there and then he will show his interest in the marriage, he will come with a lot of gifts to show his seriousness. and the gift is to shut the mouths of those who will want to oppose the marriage. and they will be some who may want to cry but the gift will be used to shut their mouths. this time is known as Eno Mkpo (giving gifts)

  3. this is an important and most interesting part of the marriage. it is known as Usoro Ndo which is the marriage proper. here the bride price will be paid. and they will invite friends family, close relatives, and distant relatives to come and witness the occasion. they will be a lot to eat and drink. on this day it is always fun-filled.

thanks for reading through my blog post, all comments, reblogs and upvote will be appreciated. from my heart I love you all.
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Wow this is great, thank for sharing with us because is not easy to pass through this, but because of love it must be done.

And why is that only first daughter they like to do test for her husband to be.


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Yes that's how it is done over here, the parents of the girl will make put the man to all these test because she is the first daughter of the family and they won't want her to get married to who will bring shame to the family, and remember she has young ones. She has to show example for them to see and follow.
Thanks for stopping by ❤️✅✅

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Quite an interesting way of getting wedded you guys over there. It's great the old tradition is still in play as many westerner seem to have lost their rich cultural heritage and traditions.

Thanks for sharing all it entails as it regards how traditional wedding is done in your village. Congratulations to your cousin and happy married life to the couple.


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Yes we never throw away our long standing tradition,
Thanks for stopping by sir stay safe❤️💯✅

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Great way to go. These are the things that keep a heritage/, culture from passing from one generation to another. My pleasure man. Stafe safe too


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Wow, I'm surprised to see they allowed pure wine. In my town it has to be palm wine specifically.

Seems like most Nigerian culture have similar wedding process, there must be the introduction, dowry and proper traditional marriage.

Great post!


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Yeah you can use any other drink here, but it must be given to the husband by his bride to drink, we don't really have a particular drink we use.

Yes you are right about that, we have similar ways of doing traditional marriage.
Thanks dear for stopping by ❤️✅

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Yeah you can use any other drink here

That's nice, I love the flexibility


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I love their attire's. They look lovely together. Come to think of it the rites are much but when there is love , everything would be done with so much happiness. Congratulations to them.


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I always will tell him that if they is anything I like most about his traditional marriage was the dress he and his bride wore, I love those combination 😁.

You say the rites are much? 😂 Well in some parts of nigeria it more than this. And of cus you are right who won't want to spend to get something good😂😂 you have to spend and forget it's too much😎😂 at the end if the day you will have nothing to regret. Thanks for stopping by 💯✅❤️

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It's good to see how you preserve your traditions and learn about the different stages of engagement and this type of celebration in your culture. Btw, the attire's fantastic! Thank you for sharing!

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Wow thanks a lot for the encouragement and support I do appreciate 🙏😃

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Great! I have read some similar posts but you have given a wonderful detail that leaves nothing to the imagination! Great traditions and trust me I can relate with them.

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Ok sir thanks for the comments, am glad you liked every bits of this post.❤️stay safe

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