The feeling of inferiority and why we should stop having it in mind
Having a brother or a sister who is severely injured and be reminding them of their Impairment is bad and we should stop it, if you ever done it or think you should do it.
I met a friend today who was hit by an unknown men on the face, we were three in number at that place, when he get to us, he greeted us normally, when Samuel saw how his face looks like, he felt it and said " how can they have done this you?".
Samuel didn't stop there, he went ahead and said that, his face is really damage, when I hear him said this part, I jumped in and tried to cancel the agenda at hand, do you know what Happened?
Samuel didn't understands what I was trying to do, I tried to stop him from spoiling Obinna's mind, because I know, if we should all Joined hands in saying that his face is damage.
We might end up making him feel inferior and which is not good, although what we might say, may be true, that is not the right way to say it because everything has time.
After, Obinna has left, I have to tell Samuel not to be saying those kinds words directly, so as not to make him feel hurt of any kind, you know, he didn't born with this Mark and he didn't pray for the thing to Happen that day to him, it just Happened, so we should know how we address such issues so as not make him consider revenge as anything.
Making someone to feel inferiority is just like, telling the person you are good for nothing**
Inferiority is a worst feelings we should do away with it and lived a life without It
That sounds very sad. Do I understand correctly that your friend was beaten and his face permanently damaged? Then your other friend was insensitive about it? Life can be so hard.
Yes is true, Obinna got into an unpleasant place at a wrong time, and he was beaten, they took away all his belongings.
He was given First aid but the scar still remains, Samuel was only trying to feel for him, he felt sorry for what had happens to him, but he didn't knew how to put his words and when he needed to, because everything has time, if you place any words at a wrong time, it will become a problem, I quickly noticed it that, although his intentions is genuine, he does not know when to ssy it and how he should go about it, I tried to stop him from saying more of what he was saying because I observed that it would make him Obinna furious and at last, would make him feels inferior, which is what I do not like at all, or want anyone to have that feelings.
That was good of you. It is hard. So many people are insensitive to other people's feelings, even when they don't intend to be cruel. That can be even more cutting sometimes.
I am also sorry to hear that your friend was injured. That is awful. Violence is a sad and terrible thing.
I usually believe the truth is best, but if a scar looks quite bad, it might be best to shelter a friend from that truth until the friend is psychologically ready for that (if ever). Instead, it might be better to find ways to not notice the damage (which can be tricky in some cases) and to treat our friend as "normal." This reminds the person that the damage was only skin deep.
I think sometimes, it is easy to forget that surface damage or ugliness is not important. We meet people who are ugly deep inside themselves and can accept it more readily than a scar, but the scar only shows a single misfortune whereas when someone has internal ugliness, that is much harder.
If your friend who is scarred ever seems to be in despair about the scarring, this is important to remember. I am not religious, but religious teaching can be helpful for those who are. For example, a minister or pastor can explain that the body can be scarred while the spirit or soul is not. That can be very healing, depending on a person's beliefs.
You were very kind to your friend in my opinion.
You are really right, Thanks so much for your kind words