Is happiness truly a choice?

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It is not new thing to us whenever we hear that life is a mystery. It mysteries are so mysterious that we are caught up in it trying to unravel it.

While some people have little understanding of what it could mean, many of us don't have slightest idea of it.

Some thing in life, they say, is a choice but somehow, life 'chooses'. We might not want to accept that but i am sure there are some choices we didn't make ourselves.

None of us chose our parents. We just found out after we started understanding things that person A is a mother and person B is a father.

We also didn't choose the country we are born into. We just found ourselves in Nigeria, Germany, America. So we are proud of these countries not because we single handedly picked them but because we were born there or our parents are from there.

We also didn't choose our religion from childhood. Most of the religions people practice today are their parents religions. Many of us have not made the choice to decide if they want to continue and those who claim they have, just stick with same religion.

I guess we can agree with my position above concerning choices we never made ourselves.

However, some people are of the view that happiness is a choice! I don't really know what their arguments are but i can paint one or two pictures to reject the claim.

If happiness is a choice, can a mother expecting fruit of the womb for many years choose not to be happy when her bundle of joy finally arrives?

Can a Nigerian man who has been going to embassy for visa with no result but got it after many years refuse or choose not to be happy?

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Can a student who has been failing a compulsory exam since 100Level choose not to be happy when he finally pass same exam in his final year?

Can a man whose dream of buying a car, house, marrying choose not to be happy the day he buys the car, did house warming or got married?

I don't think happiness should be tied to human choices. It is a feeling, something that comes from within. It is not forced but comes out by itself.

It is felt within, it is not concealed but expressed. No one can truly hide being happy. It always comes to the limelight for the world to see.

Perhaps, we can ask if a woman who loses her only child in her menopausal stage can choose to be happy?

Or a woman who waited for 10 years to be pregnant but got miscarriage after 5 months can choose to be happy?

Or a family who suddenly loss their breadwinner can choose to be happy?

Why do we tag it to choice? Can we also tag sadness to choice such that when someone got accident, he/she can just smile as if nothing happened?

Or when one's parent died, we can just laugh it off and choose to be happy instead of being sad and in pain for loosing a family.

These things are there, they are feelings that respond to human realities. They can't be bought with 'choice'!

Those arguing that are probably inspirational speakers but they need to face any of these realities and then choose to be happy. Only then would we know how much of a choice it is to be happy or sad.

Thanks for your time.



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