Broken Relationship: Dont Be A Consolidation Bag

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I had an emotional conversation with a lady who just experience an heartbreak yesterday. Her story was full of lessons and I felt I should share it with you all, someone out there might be experiencing the same thing. She met this guy called James sometime in January this year and he seem to be an amazing guy, They grew so close and she got done of him. He was always there when she needed him, he surprises her with dates and gifts, He was actually a dream come through for her.

In the course of their friendship, James told her about his girlfriend and how things were not going on well between them, but she promised to be a good friend to him. Few weeks into their friendship, He asked her to be his woman, without hesitation she couldn't hold unto the excitement in her heart. She leaped for joy and screened YES. James was a 28years old Banker who was doing well for himself, coupled with the fact that he was so romantic. She felt a sense of fulfillment in her heart. The joy in her heart made her forget the fact that He was still in a relationship with another lady. She called him that night and asked him when he was going to end the relationship, He gave her so much assuring words and reminded her of our much she means to him.

The relationship went on smoothly, her love for him continually grow as the day goes by, She was in love!!
Everything was fine until James's estranged girlfriend came back to make things right with her man, He who calls her everyone morning, now goes a week without even calling her. Whenever she calls he wouldn't call back or even return her text messages, She felt all was not well so she visited him and found the lady he claimed to have broken up with lying on his bed. When He came into the room, She confronted him and asked why his ex-girlfriend was in his room, His response chartered her heart into pieces, She couldn't believe those words could come out of his mouth to her. She hoped it was all a dream.

James told her he was so sorry that he never really loved her, he was lonely when he had issues with his girlfriend and she was there to keep him company. He was just vulnerable when he asked her out, Now that his girlfriend his back to him, he can't continue with the relationship with her anymore.

Dear Singles,

I have heard young folks say, "the best way to get over an heartbreak is to give another relationship a chance"
That is very wrong!!!

I repeat. That is very wrong.

You're a selfish person if you do so, Your motive for that relationship is deadly, you're merely using the person to heal your wounds without putting the person's feelings into consideration. Go through your healing process before jumping into a new relationship. Don't start a relationship with someone who just experienced an heartbreak and is still on healing process. It is unhealthy to start a romantic relationship with a guy/lady who is in another relationship that isn't working. Don't try to say you will win his/her heart and he/she would choose you over the other person.

So many people are hurt in a relationship because they didn't confirm the motives of their partners before starting the relationship, some initiate a relationship because they were lonely and need someone to be there, some start a relationship because the person they really love is not available at the moment. Be conscious of that guy's/lady's motive before saying YES. You might just be an instrument to kill boredom...

Be intentional!



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Ah that’s definitely a really bad situation. I get very annoyed when I hear people doing that! If you’re in a relationship then be in it but don’t lead someone on then crush them.

It was unfortunate of the girl though to date him so close to a past relationship, knowing of it as well. You never want to be someone’s rebound and she was in this scenario!

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this kind of situation do exist, best is to just maintain your boundary and friendship instead of entering into a relationship with someone like that with the hope he will love you

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