Don't Waste Anyone's Time

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Have you ever Imagine dating her for 6 years, paid her school fees and saw her through school, yet she still had the mind to leave me with the excuse that I'm no longer her type? Where do I start now? To start building another relationship at this age? God will judge her and her family." Alex cursed. I could see the pain and bitterness in his eyes as he spoke.


When Susan came back crying, I knew something must have gone wrong. What actually happened?

She had been going out with a man for 12 years with no marriage in view. She came to me complaining bitterly and I advised her on what to do which she did. But unfortunately, when she approached him to ask him when he would finally walk her down the aisle, she heard the most shocking news of a lifetime. In his words;

"Marriage? Haaa... I can't marry you . When we entered, did we agreed that we will marry if it works? But it didn't work na.. as a matter of fact, I'm engaged to someone else, and I can't marry two wives. I'm sorry. I know someone else will marry you because you are a good girl. "


A few years ago, I was in that same shoes. I wasted 3 years of my life with someone who played with my heart like a football.

If you are not interested in someone, please tell them or let them go than to waste their time. As a young man, you know you don't love her or have any intentions to marry her, yet you've promised her marriage; making her jilt other well-meaning men while waiting for you. A few months or years later, you'll start singing the chorus.

As a young lady, you know you don't love him, but you keep leading him on and collecting gifts from him. When he finally initiates marriage, that's when you'll remember you can't marry from his village.

Don't lead anyone on when you know you're not interested in them. People are going through a lot already, don't add to their pain. Some people have vowed never to love again because of this. Stop wasting people's time in the name of a relationship when you know you have zero intentions to move it forward. An opportunity lost can be restored but not time. You don't play with people's emotions and expect them to remain the same. No, something must happen: a wound must happen that may never heal.

If you don't love him/ her, or if he/ she is not your type, instead of keeping them or making unachievable promises, please release them early: let them go. Don't bring unnecessary curses upon your life because whatever a man sows, he reaps.

You don't have to date someone for long to discover if you can marry them or not. And peradventure you discover you can't, please let them know earlier than leading them on only to announce it when they have already sacrificed everything for you and committed their time to it.

Learn to respect people's emotions and feelings.



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