How about, No i dont want to?
When we keep saying yes, the ability to deal with stress becomes limited and we can’t deal with situations as we normaly would
Truth is, concept of saying NO, is and can be a incredibly challenging thing to do.
When you tell your self that being helpful is by saying -Yes & that is how your showing caring and usefullness to others
By using Yes as a validation to others, you lose the perspective of your self, and your own self-value..
When you never say No, you stop being able to say yes when it is most important, the joy of saying Yes gets lost, do to the fact of its over used and never considered a actual action to say, yes..
Our emotion gets overfilled and we'r not aren’t able to regulate ourselves. When we get to the point & cant recognize it, we keep saying yes to all and everything thing, we lose track of the inner cost of the word Yes...
Business do set the norm
Now considered good to state no
Saying no in business — No you can't vacation, No Mrvendor you will not get a higher sell % ,etc.
We have gone from its bad to say no, to -Now its i not only acceptable, Now you can even gain from the magic word of -No
All of an sudden, No is better and is more frequantly used then yes...
So why is no good when you do business? But not in your every day world??
While talking about business -most sucsessfull companys do explain the why behind said decision, so it typically can encourages people.
When staiting no in privet, we usually fail to explain our reason , do to lack of confidence in our No.
If we ain't confident in our own reasoning, do to lack of selfconfidence, the reciver of the No, cant feel encouraged. And might then argue of said no.. & by default, most don't state No, do to the fact of fear of needing to defend them self.
Its just like in kindergarden; you do need to learn - how to say No.... ;)
People with low self-esteem suffers more with the No saying. Being afraid to say no AS that comes with consequences, and do to low self-esteem they mostly will not say anything, the will tilt their boat, so they dont have to explain them selfs, and there for no consequences will apear...
Beliving that others take advantage of you; the fear of being used, gives your own needs don’t get met. Pressing your self to do things your not comfortable with or doing to much.
And you will become anxious, angry , bitter or even depressed as a follow effect....
This will have effect on both your fysical and menthal healt.. Become better at saying No to be able to care for your self worth and inner wellbeing, this should generate a better you. & by being a better you, others will see and respond to you in a more honest fashion. And stop take advantage of you...
Saying Yes were it should be & honer the value of saying No, when its right to do so, takes care of who you are & how you keep a better world around you
You got the power to say no; use it but have a reson for it, no one likes a ne-sayer ^^
- Your not here to please everyone
Your own needs matter & pleasing all and everyone is impossible...
- Confident in your own resoning
Be short and clear with your No, there ain't no need for leng detailed explanation.
Before you start, practice & do note your own body and voice tone, they do MATTER! – submissiveness as, picking on your cloths and hair will show weakness & others can pick up on that...
Repeat IS a good thing
If you get questioned , say the same thing againReschedule or negotiate
But keep in mind, on your own turf, not becouse you feel preasured.. as then again you will lose the power of the word- no
Also when negotiate is to take place, you need to give a option that suites you, failing to give a alter time or action, will be frond up on and seen as a sell out...
Value your No and enjoy IT ^^
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You only have a limited amount of "yeses" in a day, use them wisely and don't give them out readily. If you do you will end the day thinking "What just happened?! I didn't progress on anything that I wanted to get done."
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BEERfor you. Enjoy it!I always find it hard to say no to anything, but over time you just end up taking on far too much and not being able to cope with it all. It is better to say no at times to ensure you can still do what you need to do yourself - instead of always trying to put others before yourself.
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