RE: I Got Cat Called...
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Cat-calling isn't my style to be honest...Despite being a delectable shade of mocha.
Remember that even if someone makes you feel an emotion, be that positive or negative, it isn’t actually them making you feel something, but you reacting a certain way, regardless of what they might have wanted you to feel.
I agree with the above though...So many people allow others to affect how they feel...But really it's the individual who allows themselves to feel a certain way. I learned this early on in life as I was brutally vilified for being the wrong colour in the eyes of the kids at school, and other places. As soon as I realised that I had the ability to make myself feel this way or that then things took a turn. I am grateful for the racism, hate and physical abuse I received...It taught me many lessons...And made me the person I am today...That good, bad and indifferent individual that we all are.
I’ve only come to really realise this not too long ago. I’m much more careful to evaluate my feelings now and really think of what it is that ticked me off. Often my initial feeling is unreasonable and result of some insecurity or past trauma. Realising something like that doesn’t immediately take away the negative feeling but makes it easier to sort of ride the wave.
Denying people the ability to make you feel bad or negative is an important skill I think. It's hard though, hard to learn and deploy, but once learned it can be valuable and help a person live a more happy and positive life. It seems like you're on track.