How saying 'SORRY' promptly can help to build a better human relationship

The Holy Bible says in Proverbs 15:1, “A SIMPLE ANSWER TURNS AWAY WRATH BUT GREVIOUS WORDS STIR UP WRATH”.

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It is noteworthy that even religious wise, it is recognized that we human beings strive to make a quick resolution of situations that may sour human relationships. We are in a frustrated society both locally and globally and there are quick tendencies that offences are thrown at us or we offend others knowingly and unknowingly.

Saying sorry should come to us spontaneously and as much as possible, genuinely. I have come across a good number of people who say ‘sorry’ not because they mean it but for the sake of peace.
My opinion:

There is a saying that men are logical beings and women are emotional beings. This may translate to why women find it easier to apologize than men; maybe though. I will mention a few points that should help us understand the concept of ‘sorry’.

a.) Gender: there is no rule that says either the male gender or the female gender should say sorry. A man should readily say sorry and the woman as well should be quick to say sorry. People usually look down on the opposite gender when it is appropriate to say the word, ‘sorry’. And yeah, some people feel awkward apologizing to people of same gender probably because of arrogance or ego. Sorry is no respecter of gender and should be given freely to all.

b.) Age: we have those individuals that feel awkward apologizing to someone younger or older. This is commoner among individuals that offend people younger than them and because they feel they are older, they would not apologize or prefer the younger person to come apologize. Parents should apologize to children when they the parents are wrong.
Likewise adults generally should tender unreserved apology to the younger ones. This does not diminish age, status but rather, brings admiration and respect.

c.) Preference: there are those people that apologize even when they are right. it is fine that they do not want to keep malice in their minds and they readily render the apology. Permit me to say, just like the logical being I am, it is good that we know what we are sorry for. It helps people to have a change in attitude or behavior towards a person or individual that is offended. So, when you are rendering that apology, endeavor to know what exactly you did wrong and if there is any correction you can take to.

d.) Time: there are people that prefer to apologize much later when the offense has been given. The time interval only means hurt to the person offended and to the offender, a prolonged feeling of guilt or remorse. Thus as a personal opinion, apology should be offered immediately and the minds of both parties cleared without unnecessary prolongation.

e.) Emotions: saying sorry is emotional. This brings me to saying sorry even to animals. Animals do have emotion and some are smart enough to know you are sorry for something you may do to wrong them when you say ‘sorry’.

Generally, saying sorry should be prompt and genuine. When an individual has said sorry to us, we should reduce or stop every reaction we intended as a rebuke. It is wise to know what we are sorry for rather than having to commit same crime repeatedly and unknowingly.

I hope we have learnt a thing or two and we can avoid prolonging rifts by tendering unreserved apologies. It is a plausible habit that can be cultivated and spread to everyone for us to have a better society spiced with forgiveness and love.
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