RE: One Of My Biggest Challenges

When we get hurt, we close up, distance ourselves, become cautious, lose trust, act defensively (when it's needed and even more when there is no reason at all), and so on.
No matter how much we like it or not, whether we are aware and admit it or not, there is only one thing, one big emotion, driving it all from behind. Its name is FEAR!

We are afraid of being hurt again, and that's why it's easier to close up than "serve ourselves on a silver plate" for a potential new "hit."
When we become cautious about everyone and everything, we lose the ability to act and do things normally. It's like trying to exercise while your whole body muscles are in strong spasms. Impossible! In such a state, even our brain is "in spasm," and we can't think clearly, even less draw some realistic, common-sense conclusions. (Although, most often, we are not even aware of it.)
When we lose trust, we lose its silent, powerful companions too. Their names are LOVE & CARE! We can't care about or love someone or something if we don't trust them.
When we are not giving Love & Care, we are automatically shutting the entrance door for both of them to come our way (be given to us). If we closed the door for Love & Care, we also closed the tap of Life Fuel.
(How long a car can go without the fuel? - Until its tank is empty! - We don't function any differently, but we are usually not aware of it until our life-car starts hiccuping, driving its last meters on the last drops of fuel or even fuel vapors.)

Therefore, we wish you to get rid of that FEAR! Don't let it drain out your Life Fuel! - You can decide that because you are the only one in charge! You hold all the power to command that Fear to go away! (And you have all the rights to do it and unchain yourself!)
And you can do it because you are way stronger and braver than you think you are or feel at the moment!

Also, remember that every bad situation that comes our way and hits us comes for a reason, and that reason is always to teach us something. So, the main question (for all the different situations that hit you over the years) is, What have you supposed to learn from them??? — You are the only one who knows or can find the answer to that one! (But one thing is for sure: they didn't come to chain you into a dark dungeon of Fear! Quite on the contrary, all the bad situations you've been through armed you with a special detection ability that now enables you to detect the same or similar from a far distance, giving you the advantage to prepare and defend yourself.)

If you still don't know where and how to start getting out of this situation, try with small things.

• Try to focus only on the good qualities of each person you meet, and act upon that - smile, say something nice. (Even the worst person in the world has at least one good quality.)
• Pick a person for each day for which person you are going to do something nice with love & care. Remember, Love & Care are the only investments in life that always come back to us 100 times multiplied! (Just don't expect them from the same person you are giving for the same or similar situations, as they usually return from an entirely different and unexpected direction at the time they chose. That's life-hack - catch-22!)😉

Last but not least, don't be afraid to be hurt, disappointed, or face some unpleasant or even ugly situation. Remember, it's just a chance to learn something new, to grow yourself into a better person than you already are! You will harvest the fruits of passing such an exam later on; you'll see!

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