RE: Hive-Naija Weekend Engagement #6 - Money & Relationships
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😂 Hi Sam, I also thought this month is running really fast.
Now to our week's question, I'm gonna answer all the questions in the most shortest way I can and I can't wait to read from others... I'm excited, this is a very crucial topic to discuss on.
Who should pay on the first date?
Since na Nigeria we dey, I go say na the guy go pay first o 😌 but if I'm the one on a date with someone, I would like to experience that aspect of us paying together 😊
Who Pays The Bills afterwards?
Any of the two on the date together but it shouldn't seem like the guy is leaving everything for the lady, just let her pay some and the guy pay for most of it.
Should a woman earn more than her husband?
If the woman is lucky to earn more than the man, there's nothing wrong with that unless the woman brings in her pride in it which would not be good for the man. Because men have an ego they try to protect and women are fond of putting their ego out to shame. I for one is working on myself to not let pride be a part of me in my relationship with my man in the future, even if I earn more than him.
As a man, would you feel hurt, if you can't provide as much as your partner can?
For sure, it must surely hurt but there are women who wouldn't make him feel that hurt for long or make it less worse for him until he gets back on his feet to provide.
Do you think a Nigerian lady would date a guy below her net worth?
I won't answer for other ladies but I will date a guy even if he is below my net worth... The most important thing in such situation is we love each other and we have money to cater for ourselves and family.
Oya oooo
@iskafan @doziekash @chincoculbert @deraaa I want to specially hear what you guys have to say about these questions... I like aproko wella so nor even bother call me aproko 😝🤣😂
Okay I like the point you are seeing this from and also to the fact you spoke for yourself and not all
Make sense
I go like see others point of view
Yes o
I dey wait for their own o
Where is yours 🙄
Lol
🤣🤣🤣
This one is an entire post on it's own. All the answers you gave are valid sha so I'll allow it.
Thank you... Oya where are your answers 🙄
You've said everything I want to say.
😂 Make ona come o
I be nor plan to help anybody answer he question o
E sey... I'll allow it
Waiting for yours...
If I don't have what to say nko?
Read the rules lol.
You can write a primary school composition about your
Paying together ke 😆 madam how far you
Me I don't think most girls will want to be paying together. After tasting sweet thing at first
😂 Just lemme alone o
Is e your money? Is e nor my money? But it's on rare cases sha, not that I would like to pay all the time
Why are you people paying together abeg, one person should pay na.
😂 It can happen na
But sometimes he will pay alone or I pay alone... You know those situations where the guy doesn't have enough to pay at that moment 🙄 just saying though
I understand sha, never shared bills before though, it's always one person.
It's cool
We will soon go on date so you will pay sha 😆
😂 I'm waiting... We go wash plates together 😃
😆 I like to wash plate even so no wahala
Hmm. Dating someone below net worth. This is getting interesting
😂 Yeah it sure is, it's not a bad thing at all... To me sha
Ok o. But won't you voice out when it get to some stage
Omo @merit.ahama answered the question exactly how I would answer it.
But about this topic eh, I do not understand why our Nigeria ladies make it a big factor, making the innocent boy/man involved enter street and do the most just to impress the lady. Money is essential but if little things like he has to pay the bills and earn higher becomes priority then there is a problem.
What happened to growing rich together, starting from the scratch together and supporting each other to the top?
Too much pressure in this generation for money and it is crazy.
Most ladies do not even care where the money is coming from sha they want the sweetest things of life... Really sad o
That's why there are lot of cases of kidnapping and the rest because most don't care how the guy gets the money but just want to enjoy sweet things which they think it's their spec
Oh girl! You too much! Most girls won't even thinking about all this... They just want to belong by charging their partners for whatever they need.
Nothing happened to it my dear. There are people who did this and are stronger than ever. I am totally for this idea but I have come to realize that some guys not all are douchebags.
They date a girl when they have nothing, and as soon as they become soft, they believe they can afford certain kinds of girls and they indulge their fantasies because they have the money.
So it really goes both ways.
That's true too...
This is true, this happens everywhere. I can't even find an explanation for it or a solution.. could that be a good reason to follow a rich guy?
!PIZZA
Not necessarily.
I think some people would rather have a broken heart with money as opposed to a broken heart with a broke wallet.
No manual to this thing
At all..
Yes, can you blame them? Just think of a beautiful girl suffering? How unfair is it. Then, a man with comes ready to exploit that weakness. It would be really hard for them not to fall.
It's sad honestly. It's the sort of society we find ourselves these days. Where love has no meaning. It's all about money & cruise now.
No real vision of support & growing together.
It's societal conditioning and men are also enablers of this entitlement.
The thing is every human has an ego my dear. The ability to control it is where the power lies. I once dated someone who I earned more than, each time I said something that had to do with money, he flared up. Now, I wasn't even asking for him to use his money as I had mine and was always willing to come through for him but Baba was just insecure and his ego kept getting in the way.
Truth is, the guy has to be secure in himself first, if not, anything you do would be an insult because in his head you have money more than he does.
Wahala o
I haven't really been in such situation before though so I won't say much but I get your point... Controlling one's ego is what's important
It's key hun
Well, after reading this, I don conclude say you over get sense. It's the wisest answer I've seen so far. Guys have pride and women sometimes can easily hurt that pride. So it's all a thing of understanding each other and doing things that'll make y'all be happy.
Well so far, it seems like the girls are the only ones so eager to answer the questions. Me I just dey dey observe...lol aproko no go ki you ma 😂😂😂
😂 My funny @chincoculbert is finally here, so na now you know say I get sense ba 🙄😑
I like aproko, I nor say make you remind me... Drop your own soon abeg
Lol, I been dey here since but mehn I was just observing o..😂😂, I been know say you get sense, now I confirm say e dey wellah.
😂😂 Sorry no vex abeg
I'm going to..
😂 Funny, you're so funny... Observe well but don't copy and paste my own answers sha 🚶♀️🚶♀️
!PIZZA
I swear!! That's the way o. It's our culture
I agree, but I also think if the girl decides she want to take the guy outing,she can handle the bills. Not everytime for sure though.
This is the major issue sha. Alot of women tend to do that. They're mouth no get control sometimes, them fit get small argument one dey now, the next thing she done dey talk "I'm the one catering for the family, what do you do sef.
Awwnn ❤
Our culture says the guy should be in charge of payment but there's really nothing wrong with the girl handling the bills sometimes.
I've seen a lot of that scenario where the girl let's pride get into her head because she caters for the house more... 😒 So sad
I'm down with her paying sometimes but definitely not on the first date.
Yeah it is.
I understand